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Uneven Bridal Party

So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  

I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

Thanks ladies :)

Re: Uneven Bridal Party

  • This is absolutely a non -issue. Have the groomsmen waiting at the alter and BMs walk in alone. Have them recess one by one and have one man take two ladies, I'm sure he won't be upset. 

    Also, it's generally thought that the 'junior' title should be left off. Especially since younger kids don't like being pointed out that they're younger. They all have the same 'job'- show up on time in the attire. 
  • it is totally OK to have uneven sides.  One girl will walk with two guys; no big deal
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  • So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  


    I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

    Thanks ladies :)
    I'm wondering why you're uncomfortable with a GM walking your little sis down the aisle? They'll be walking arm in arm for less than a minute total and they don't even have to link arms - they could just walk side by side.

    That being said, it's fine to have the BMs walk in by themselves and had the GMs at the altar. As for walking out, they can just walk next to each other or single file or whatever.
  • So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  

    I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

    Thanks ladies :)

    Why?
  • I honestly don't know why this is always such an issue. What do you think will happen if one of those guys walks with your sister? Is he going to molest her on the way?  If so, I'm a little surprised you would be friends with this person. And just have people double up or walk single file if you find your sister walking with one of the guys so distasteful. 

    Please drop the "junior" from those titles. They all do the same thing. You aren't calling the others "senior"' are you?  Of course not. 




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  • So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  

    I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

    Thanks ladies :)
    Our WP was very uneven, and H's 30 year old GM walked my 13 year old cousin down the aisle. She was fine. I find it odd that you don't consider a single one of your FI's best friends to be able to escort your little sister down the aisle in a public setting. Either your FI's friends are really creepy, or you are worrying about nothing. I like to think you are worrying about a non-issue.
    I agree. I was 15 in my sister's wedding and I walked down the aisle with a guy in his 30's. No big deal. I held onto his arm for all of 20 seconds. It's not like she's suddenly her escort's date. 
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    When I was a jr bridesmaid at age 12, I walked down the aisle with one of my uncle's brother's, who was in his late 20s at the time. It's not like anything would happen while walking down the aisle in front of everyone.

    As for uneven wedding parties, total non-issue. I promise.
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  • My bestie is getting married a month or so after me and she told me about her "junior" bridesmaids. I tried to play dumb and say "What's a junior bridesmaid? That's sounds weird." But she gave the whole "explanation."

    I just nodded and smiled.



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  • Ok first if all, I just don't want my sister walking down with anyone other than my little brother. It might make her feel uncomfortable, even if its only for a short time. So you can all stop hating on me for that. Second, I never said my FI wanted to kick my brother out just to have even sides, he just thinks that if that's the number we're going with, he'd rather have his friend in the WP. Third, I was a "junior bridesmaid" in my Mom's wedding. It's not totally unheard of and really is personal preference. As a junior bridesmaid, I wasn't necessarily expected to take on certain roles that bridesmaids do: help throw a bridal shower, attend/plan bachelorette party, pay for dress, etc. With all that said, thanks for the input on the uneven wedding party! I was thinking we'd just have the guys start up front and thrn have someone all back down the aisle alone or one girl with 2 guys.
  • My uncle's wedding had uneven sides. My other uncle ended up escorting the female minister to the alter before the rest of the wedding party, and escorting her out afterwards.
  • We're going to have uneven sides.  My FI's dad is the BM, so the men will all stand up there at the beginning, and then on the way out, he's going to grab FMIL from her aisle seat and escort her out (FI's dad, sister, and BIL are all in the wedding party, so we thought it would be nice to include his mom in the ceremony this way).  Not a big deal.  We could also just have two GM escort one BM on the way back...it's like a 10 second situation, it's not a big deal.
  • So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  

    I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

    Thanks ladies :)
    I also have uneven bridal party. But I have 5 BMs and a Bridesman (my brother). FI has 3 GMs. FI is being weird and only wants the GMs that are his friends to stand on his side. It's the only disagreement we've had with wedding plans, so I'm trying not to make a big deal of it. But I do worry about pictures. Any ideas? 

    I don't want all our pics to look off center. Six on one side, three on the other....thats quite a difference :/
  • So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  

    I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

    Thanks ladies :)
    I also have uneven bridal party. But I have 5 BMs and a Bridesman (my brother). FI has 3 GMs. FI is being weird and only wants the GMs that are his friends to stand on his side. It's the only disagreement we've had with wedding plans, so I'm trying not to make a big deal of it. But I do worry about pictures. Any ideas? 

    I don't want all our pics to look off center. Six on one side, three on the other....thats quite a difference :/

    Your FI isn't being weird. Why shouldn't he only have his friends on his side? It would be weird to shove people onto his side that he's not really close to.

    Your photographer should be good about staging and staggering everyone to make it look just fine. Don't worry about it - care more about the people in your wedding party than how they will look in photos.

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  • Ok first if all, I just don't want my sister walking down with anyone other than my little brother. It might make her feel uncomfortable, even if its only for a short time. So you can all stop hating on me for that. Second, I never said my FI wanted to kick my brother out just to have even sides, he just thinks that if that's the number we're going with, he'd rather have his friend in the WP. Third, I was a "junior bridesmaid" in my Mom's wedding. It's not totally unheard of and really is personal preference. As a junior bridesmaid, I wasn't necessarily expected to take on certain roles that bridesmaids do: help throw a bridal shower, attend/plan bachelorette party, pay for dress, etc. With all that said, thanks for the input on the uneven wedding party! I was thinking we'd just have the guys start up front and thrn have someone all back down the aisle alone or one girl with 2 guys.
    I agree with you. If you think it will make your sister even the slightest bit uncomfortable, don't do it. I also agree with you about Jr bridesmaid. This is not the first time I have heard of this. I'm not sure what all the fuss is about here. It's not degrading to be Jr Bridesmaid. Perhaps it's a regional thing, since so many people claim to never heard of it (which seems strange to me)

    Any who, it will all work out. Good luck 
  • I had a junior bridesmaid. The kid corrected ME when I called her a bridesmaid. But she's nine years old. I wouldn't call a tween or teen a "junior".
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  • Thanks mrstobe2014!  At 8 years old I didn't want to be the "flower girl" because I thought I was too old for that and I definitely didn't want to walk down the aisle with any of my step-dad's friends because I would have felt weird even if it was only 30 seconds or whatever.  I can imagine that an 11 year old would probably feel somewhat the same.
  • PDKH said:
    So our bridal party is turning out to be a bit uneven...I've got 6 girls (including my little sister who will be 11 and a Jr. Bridesmaid)...we had 6 guys as well (including my little brother who will be 14 and a Jr. Groomsmen).  My FI feels that one of the guys we're thinking should be an usher deserves to be a groomsmen, rather than having my brother as a Jr. Groomsmen, but I'm not comfortable with any of these guys walking down the aisle with my little sister.  I'm thinking we'll just have 7 guys and 6 girls, but I'm wondering how this would work for everyone walking down the aisle.  Does anyone have any ideas?  

    I was thinking maybe the guys could stand up front at the beginning and girls could walk down the aisle on their own but I'm not sure how that would work walking back up the aisle...

    Thanks ladies :)
    I also have uneven bridal party. But I have 5 BMs and a Bridesman (my brother). FI has 3 GMs. FI is being weird and only wants the GMs that are his friends to stand on his side. It's the only disagreement we've had with wedding plans, so I'm trying not to make a big deal of it. But I do worry about pictures. Any ideas? 

    I don't want all our pics to look off center. Six on one side, three on the other....thats quite a difference :/

    Your FI isn't being weird. Why shouldn't he only have his friends on his side? It would be weird to shove people onto his side that he's not really close to.

    Your photographer should be good about staging and staggering everyone to make it look just fine. Don't worry about it - care more about the people in your wedding party than how they will look in photos.

    Ok, I do care about my wedding party. No need to make rude insinuations. This is my first, and God-willing, only wedding. I have not attended or been in weddings with an uneven wedding party. We have just started the photographer hunt, so I actually didn't know they would stage/stagger. However, I do hope to show my wedding pictures to my grandchildren one day, and because I care not only about myself, but everyone in the wedding party, I do want my pictures to look great. I wasn't really worried to begin with. I know we will get it figured out.
  • We have an uneven party I have 7 bridesmaids and he has 5 groomsmen
    My only concern is how are we going to sit so the table looks even
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  • pixie3208 said:
    We have an uneven party I have 7 bridesmaids and he has 5 groomsmen
    My only concern is how are we going to sit so the table looks even
    why does the table need to look even?  And where are the spouses of the people in the bridal party sitting?
  • Ok first if all, I just don't want my sister walking down with anyone other than my little brother. It might make her feel uncomfortable, even if its only for a short time. So you can all stop hating on me for that. Second, I never said my FI wanted to kick my brother out just to have even sides, he just thinks that if that's the number we're going with, he'd rather have his friend in the WP. Third, I was a "junior bridesmaid" in my Mom's wedding. It's not totally unheard of and really is personal preference. As a junior bridesmaid, I wasn't necessarily expected to take on certain roles that bridesmaids do: help throw a bridal shower, attend/plan bachelorette party, pay for dress, etc. With all that said, thanks for the input on the uneven wedding party! I was thinking we'd just have the guys start up front and thrn have someone all back down the aisle alone or one girl with 2 guys.
    Have you asked your sister if she would be uncomfortable, or are you just assuming she would be?
  • I haven't asked her yet but I'm not assuming. I never said she would feel uncomfortable, I said she MIGHT feel uncomfortable. We haven't talked about it yet because my FI and I are still figuring out what we're going to do. 
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