My friend and quasi-daughter received her engagement and wedding rings within four days of each other. There was no particular reason to hurry, it just worked out that way, which meant that many of their friends didn't even know they were getting married before they WERE married, but there are also some religious issues involved. I told her that I would be happy to give a post-wedding shower and now that the time has arrived and I could use some advice, having not given a bridal shower for a few years....or decades. I have sons, so this hasn't come up. Yet.(I'll be back for more info on that.) I know the post-wedding shower is not strictly Emily Post, and even though I'm Southern, I can live with that. Her generation is far more casual about this kind of thing than mine was. In terms of planning, are there any BIG things I need to think about that make the post-wedding shower different from the pre-wedding shower? And what is appropriate these days in terms of venue. We always thought a shower at home was more appropriate and that going to a public place was kind of tasteless and impersonal. Are more couple-showers given now as opposed to bridal showers, and how is that affected by the date of the shower, post- or pre-wedding? They did a beach wedding; does that mean the theme of the shower should also be "beach?" The wording of the invitation must be different; is the time of day different, the food different, the gifts different? Should we be calling it a post-wedding reception instead? Even though I have planned a number of complex events, in this situation, the generation gap LIVES!