If you are paying for the wedding do you still put your parents as the host on the invitations?

Re: If you are paying for the wedding do you still put your parents as the host on the invitations?

• Maggie0829 member

  

  July 2013

  As for who you put as hosts of the wedding is really up to you.  If you and your FI are paying for the event then there is no reason to put either of your parents names on the invite.  But if you would like to include your parents then you most certainly can no matter who is and is not contributing.

  
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  July 2013 edited July 2013

  Since paying =/= hosting, I'd put whoever the hosts are on the invitation.  If that's you and your FI but not your parents, you could use "The presence of your company/is requested at the marriage of/Bride/and/Groom/etc."
  
  But if you want to include your parents anyway, you can use "together with their parents."
  
  I do think it's better to not use your invitation to map out your family tree and include a long list of people who aren't really hosts.  The people honored by an invitation are the guests, not anyone else listed on the invitation.
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2013

  Thanks. I feel the exact way. However, my mother seems to think that regardless if she is paying or not she should be put as the host. I just don't think it's fair for me to put in all the work and money and she be recognized for it all.
  

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• HobokensFury member

  

  July 2013

  We did because it would cause too many issues if we didn't. It's not a hill to die on.

   
   

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• KDM323 member

  

  July 2013

  We are putting "together with their parents" even though we are paying.

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