The wedding is in two days, so this is purely curiosity on my part, but I've often wondered about all the advice about "graciously declining" showers/offers to pay/other wedding related things. How do those play out in reality? I understand that it should never be rude to say no thank you, but how do family dynamics play into that? I didn't want a bridal shower. Telling my aunts that would have been viewed as incredibly rude. I imagine turning down your future in-laws would create a bad start to that relationship. Has anyone had success in declining something without hurt feelings? Or any horror stories?