Hi everyone! We have been planning on going through our church for our officient, and have been matched up with a Pastor. However, when I emailed the woman who coordinates the pastors' schedules to set up a meeting with the pastor to go over the ceremony content she told me the pastors don't typically meet with the bride and groom until about 2 weeks before the wedding (our wedding is this November). I then asked how we would know what the ceremony order would look like, so I could ask certain people to be involved (readings, songs, etc) AND get the programs printed, and she said that he will pretty much just work from the script that we give him. I asked if he had a standard ceremony that he worked from, that we could look at to at least figure out what we want to customize, or if there is a list of things we can and can't include, she said she didn't think he had either of those but there were lots of ceremony scripts I could do a google search for on the internet. Ummm, what? Is it normal to have to basically put your ceremony together yourself, with almost no guidance from your pastor? ...OH! And he won't attend the rehearsal either. I'm wondering if we should just go through an officient service at this point.