I'm an MOB, wedding fall 2014.
DD has been engaged exactly two weeks ... already her future MIL is causing drama. Here how it's going: she yacks to her son (my future SIL), who then passes it along to my DD, who then passes info/questions along to me. I hate that already she is putting my DD in the middle -- it's stressful for her and then my DD takes it out on me, which I hate. I've tried to communicate directly with the future MIL and she is polite up to a point, but then reverts back to bugging my DD and FSIL.
My DD is giving in to all of her demands because she just doesn't want any stress or drama (or conflict with her fiance). Since I am paying for it all, this puts me in the position of being the bad guy when I disagree with them.
Already she is whining about the choice of location because she "just doesn't know the area" -- which would be true regardless since she lives several states away. She wanted *me* to pick out the rehearsal dinner location -- I gave her several options and now she is complaining about the expense.
She also insisted that her completely immature and selfish daugher be a bridesmaid, and my DD agreed "as a gesture of solidarity within the families." My DD is not friends with this girl, and choosing her has knocked my DIL (to whom my DD is very close) out of the line-up. (Grrrrrr .....) This girl is a rude drama queen whom I fear will do everything she can to disrupt the event and try to divert attention to herself. She also is a hairdresser and has already proclaimed ... loudly .. that under no circumstances will she do the wedding party's hair. Uh, OK -- I had no expectations about that, but, well, you know -- it would have been a nice gesture (but that's the kind of person she is).
<<sigh>> Not sure if I can take another year of this ...
Thanks for hearing me out.