XP Bachelorette party question

Re: XP Bachelorette party question

• KeptInStitches member

  

  August 2013

  Haven't had any experience with a bachelorette weekend, but I would plan to pay my own way if I were you. That way you're prepared either way.

  

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• Jessa617 member

  

  August 2013

  I would say you shouldn't be paying for their meals/drinks/room etc. They chose to attend the weekend. To be on the safe side expect to pay for own meals/drinks/room etc. If they offer to get you a few drinks while you're out, well then that will be nice on your wallet. 

  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  August 2013

  christi.mayo said:

  Hi everyone!

  Haven't posted on here in a while and can't believe the big day is just 7 weeks away. My bridesmaids (there are 7 of them) have generously opted to throw me a bachelorette party (weekend) in Nashville. Everyone attending except one person lives either in Chicago or a few hours from Nashville, and I have covered their airfare. However, the ladies are still shelling out for hotel rooms ($99/person) and at least 1 activity that I know of.

  My question is...what, if anything, should I expect to pay for? They have already indicated that they do not want me to pay for the activity they have planned, but other than that, I wasn't sure if it was customary for me to pay for my own meals...their meals...my own drinks...their drinks? Just trying to figure out budget-wise what I should expect the weekend to cost me.

  If anyone has any experience with a "Bachelorette weekend", it would help me out a lot if you could share what you ended up chipping in for! Thanks in advance!

  If I were the bride, I would plan on paying for all my meals and drinks myself and buying a few rounds for my girls for being in the wedding and planning an awesome weekend in Nashville.

  
  

  If I were a BM, I would pay for all the bride's drinks when we went out to party at any planned activities. I wouldn't really expect to pay for her meals.

  
  

  Plan to pay for yourself, but don't be surprised if they want to pick up your bar tab.

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• itzMS member

  

  August 2013

  I'd say you should be prepared to get your wallet out at every event. If someone tells you to put it away, then that's cool. I'm sure they will appreciate the fact that you're trying to be responsible and respectful and not be a cost burden.

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• ElcaB member

  

  August 2013

  Be prepared to pay for yourself, but allow them to pick up the tab if they offer (they probably will). 

  
  

  You should not, nor should you be expected to, pay for anyone else's anything. They're hosting the weekend, not you, and as such they should be covering any expenses they incur. At most previous bachelorette parties I've attended, attendees usually agree to chip in extra to cover the bride's expenses. 

  

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• allispain member

  

  August 2013

  ElcaB said:

  Be prepared to pay for yourself, but allow them to pick up the tab if they offer (they probably will). 

  
  

  You should not, nor should you be expected to, pay for anyone else's anything. They're hosting the weekend, not you, and as such they should be covering any expenses they incur. At most previous bachelorette parties I've attended, attendees usually agree to chip in extra to cover the bride's expenses. 

  This exactly. My girls wouldn't let me pay for anything on my weekend, even though I always had my wallet at the ready. Granted, mine was also super chill and low-cost, so it was easily doable for them to split the costs.

  
  

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• ashleyep member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  I've done a couple of bachelorette weekends and we've never asked the bride to shell out for anything, even the hotel. But we always had enough girls that splitting the bride's cost 10+ ways wasn't a big deal.

  
  

  Of course, it's always good to be prepared. Pull out your wallet and you'll almost certainly be asked to put it away.

  

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