NWR- Baby shower invite for someone you haven't met?

Re: NWR- Baby shower invite for someone you haven't met?

• NYCMercedes member

  

  August 2013

  Decline graciously and don't send a gift. You're still within acceptable behavior as far as etiquette goes.

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• KeptInStitches member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  I would probably decline since I don't know mom- or dad-to-be. You could send a little gift, though - maybe a couple of onesies or a favorite book from when you were a kid.

  
  

  ETA: removing unnecessary obligation

  

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• itzMS member

  

  August 2013

  abl13 said:

  What would you do if you were invited to a shower for someone you've never met? Would you send a gift if you decline?? I was invited to a shower for H's cousin (2 hours away) they got pregnant shortly after they started dating and had a private wedding ceremony right after. H's cousin is the father, I've never met his wife and haven't seen the cousin in > 1 year. I want to decline and not send a gift but my husband is making me feel guilty. It doesn't help that they no-showed to our wedding and cost us $175, and we haven't heard a word from them since. Is it rude to not send a gift? I don't want to respond to rudeness with rudeness but it just rubs me the wrong way.

  I would decline, and send a card.

  If you're feeling generous, send a pack of onezies and socks or a small gift from the registry if it's their first child.
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  August 2013 edited August 2013

  If I didn't know either of the parents, I'd decline.  Maybe I'll send a card, depending on relationships with persons this person knows, but that's as far as I'll go.
  
  Edited to add: Tell your husband to stop trying to make you feel guilty, and he can send a card if it's so important to him to maintain a relationship that put you out $175.
  

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• Simply Fated member

  

  August 2013

  I think you should decline and leave it at that. If your husband wants you to send a gift, he can do it himself.

  
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  August 2013

  itzMS said:

  abl13 said:

  What would you do if you were invited to a shower for someone you've never met? Would you send a gift if you decline?? I was invited to a shower for H's cousin (2 hours away) they got pregnant shortly after they started dating and had a private wedding ceremony right after. H's cousin is the father, I've never met his wife and haven't seen the cousin in > 1 year. I want to decline and not send a gift but my husband is making me feel guilty. It doesn't help that they no-showed to our wedding and cost us $175, and we haven't heard a word from them since. Is it rude to not send a gift? I don't want to respond to rudeness with rudeness but it just rubs me the wrong way.

  I would decline, and send a card.

  If you're feeling generous, send a pack of onezies and socks or a small gift from the registry if it's their first child.
  

  This is what I would do. 

  
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  August 2013

  Nope, no way. If FI feels so strongly, he can send a gift. 

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• abl13 member

  

  August 2013

  scribe95 said:

  I just want to clarify - you invited someone you hadn't met to your wedding but you are annoyed they invited you to a baby shower?
  

  
  They're family....had to invite them....she wasn't invited to my bridal shower so why would I attend hers?

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• PatriceC59

  

  August 2013

  I would decline, and send a card.

  If you're feeling generous, send a pack of onezies and socks or a small gift from the registry if it's their first child.

  
  

  This.  I second/third it!

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