My FI and I have decided to have a smaller wedding with our family and a few close friends in October of this year This has caused us to cut our list to only include close family and friends. I work with a large group of people and have been trying to plant the seed that we are keeping it small but I keep getting questions about having a shower with everyone from work. I know that etiquette is to not invite people to showers that aren't invited to the wedding but how do I address co-workers that want to throw a shower? Help!<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />