Any ideas on how to ask one cousin to be in the wedding party and not another? I really don't want to ask my fathers niece (my cousin) to be in my wedding party due to her parents. My fathers sister and her husband are of the mindset that if they or there daughter are included in something that means they have a say on what goes on. If you disagree with them or don't do what they want, then they make you out to be the bad guy. They are already trying to plan my wedding for me, I've tried to be very polite and tell them thank you for your input but this is my wedding and it's going to happen the way me and my FI want it to go. I'm trying to not start a family feud but this is also my wedding. Any ideas?