I have been very close with my friend since high school and we have become even closer since we graduated. After my fiancé proposed, I found out that she was one of my friends that knew it was going to happen and made the long trip to join out vacation just after he proposed. So there was no question that I wanted her be one of my bridesmaids. She graciously accepted.
While the big day is still a long ways off, we have had a few parties for the two sides to get to know each other. She has attended none of them. The only 'bridal' event she has gone to is one bridal show with me. I'm having a bridesmaid only party and she can't come because "it's the day before her birthday". She also told me she won't come to my bachelorette party if it's in Vegas because she doesn't like Vegas.
I got to thinking: may she does not want to be a bridesmaid. Could that be what's going on or am I overthinking it? Has anyone been offered to be a BM and didn't want to be?