So when Jesse and I started planning the wedding and choosing vendors, etc. I had just assumed we would pay for certain things. His mom had previously offered to pay for the photographer, but to keep a long story short, she kinda flipped out one day and I just assumed I would pay for the photographer from there on out because it was just easier on everyone. Well, I found a photographer, paid the deposit, signed the contract, etc. I chose the bakery, designed the cake and paid that deposit. Well, a month later his mom insists she pay for the cake and the photographer. I told her not to worry about it because we had already taken care of those things. She gets on the phone with Jesse and asks how much the deposits were and he told her... ugh. She sends me a check to cover those deposits and insists she take over payments from there. She asked me to send her the info for both of those vendors and told me not to worry, they would be paid well before the wedding. I was extremely thankful and made sure she was aware that it was unexpected, but nevertheless, very much appreciated. Here we are a couple months later. Would you ask her if she's made payments or would you just assume she's paying or still planning to pay? I really hope I told this in enough detail...