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Wearing Black

I have a wedding in two weeks and another in mid-December. I've had my eye on a black dress that I want to wear to both weddings (none of the guests overlap so I'm good there). In one wedding, H and I are guests and in the other H is a GM.

Anyway, would you side-eye a black dress at a wedding?
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Wearing Black 216 votes

Yup - there are tons of other color options, why did you have to choose black?
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Nope - I wouldn't think twice about it.
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Re: Wearing Black

  • I usually accent with a colorful cardi or shoes, as that's my style. But it's really NBD! :-)
  • Nope. The dress I'm wearing in December (which is strap less.. I think I'm crazy!) is black and then zebra print around my boobs with a yellow sash. Go for it :)
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  • itzMS said:
    I usually accent with a colorful cardi or shoes, as that's my style. But it's really NBD! :-)
    ^^This. This is exactly my style, too!

    My mother has her eye on a black dress for my wedding, and a few people are telling me that it's a big no-no for the MOB to wear black. But like above, it's her style, and the dress is really cute. As long as I don't see anything wrong with it...lol!
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  • 90% of my wedding guests (last month) wore black or navy and everyone looked awesome and classy and sophisticated.
  • Black is completely acceptable.  I'd probably accessorize with color, but that's just my taste, I don't think it actually matters.

    I've worn black to every wedding I've gone to for years.

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  • Nope. The dress I'm wearing in December (which is strap less.. I think I'm crazy!) is black and then zebra print around my boobs with a yellow sash. Go for it :)
    MEOW.

    Also I second the idea of adding a pop of color.
    HAHA! I got it for my cousin's october wedding last year... My FI really likes it and begged me to wear it.. who can complain about re-wearing a dress ;) Def going to look into a yellow cardi or wear my black short sleeve cover up
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  • There are very few times in life when a LBD is not appropriate, and a wedding is not one of them.
  • Black is no longer a "no no" for weddings. 

    Heck, next month, when I get married I have a black lace jacket to put over my wedding dress for the reception (I feel weird about wearing it for the ceremony). 
  • Just pair it with some jewelry that says PARTY!!! and not funeral :( and I think you'll look wonderful.
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  • I'll admit I hate black at weddings, especially on the mothers of the bride and groom. But really on the guests too. Everyone thinks her little black dress is all Audrey-chic, but a lot of the time they just look like you phoned it in style wise.
  • I almost always wear black at weddings.
  • I almost always wear black at weddings as well, because let's be honest.  . black is slimming!

    I glam it up with accessories and shoes.

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  • Post the dress!
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  • KatWAG said:
    Post the dress!
    Ditto!!

    I have mostly black dresses in my closet.  I find it more fun to change it up with cardigans, jewelery, and of course new shoes :)
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  • No side-eye here, heck the last two weddings I went to the bridesmaids were in black.  Just rock some fun jewelry or colorful purse/shoes and it'll look great!
  • Yep, just make it "shine" somehow - fun colors, sparkles, etc, and you'll be fine.
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  • I have worn black to weddings. 
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  • edited October 2013
    KatWAG said:
    Post the dress!
    It's this dress, but in black:
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    ETA: It's on sale at Ann Taylor for $150!! from $550) I planned to wear a bolero/scarf/something to cover my shoulders so maybe that's where I can add color. Any links to cute accessories/jackets/other stuff greatly appreciated! :) I'm open to any color

    I also really appreciate everyone's honesty. It gives me a good idea of what others will be thinking.

    ETF: Got the black dress picture to work!! 
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  • Wow that is beautiful!
  • I've worn black at weddings a number of times. The dress you've picked is beautiful.
  • I would go on Bauble Bar and get some fun long necklaces.
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  • I love black dresses everywhere but weddings.  Absolutely hate black at weddings.  But that's just my opinion - I'm in the minority around here!
  • Zero problem in my world - I'd accent with a brightly colored bolero or scarf and statement jewelry.
  • When did black stop being a no no at weddings?
  • When did black stop being a no no at weddings?
    Black is elegant and classy, and pretty much looks universally good on everyone unless you are uber, uber pale.  I have never bought into the mentality that if you are wearing black you are disapproving of the marriage. . . that sounds pretty out dated to me.

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  • I would side-eye all black. It really does rub me the wrong way. I'd rather see someone wear white or cream!
    I would be totally cool with a black skirt or a black dress accompanied a bright or sparkly wrap, colorful belt & accessories, and killer shoes. Or a black dress with a colored jacket or sweater.
  • I don't get caring about the color of other people's clothing, especially enough to side-eye, and I'd never realized anyone did until I came to TK.

    Not a big deal, and your dress is pretty. You'll look lovely!
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  • Pretty dress.

    To me, black is classic. Black cocktail dresses with a chunky necklace is one of my wedding go-to's. 
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  • kitty8403 said:
    I would side-eye all black. It really does rub me the wrong way. I'd rather see someone wear white or cream! I would be totally cool with a black skirt or a black dress accompanied a bright or sparkly wrap, colorful belt & accessories, and killer shoes. Or a black dress with a colored jacket or sweater.
    I would NEVER wear all white to a wedding....the bride can have that color for the day.  Black on the other hand, perfectly acceptable.

    OP - I think the black dress is fine!  Accessorize it or add in a bit of color with a wrap and you're good to go!
  • I love the dress! I just wore an LBD to a good friend's wedding in September (weekend after Labor Day). I accessorized with killer heels (also black, but who doesn't love good black pumps?), pretty jewellery, and kind of sexy hair. 

    I think the line of demarcation is whether the black dress is something you would wear to a funeral. If it IS -- then don't. If it's NOT -- then do it!

    Also, I would side-eye the ever-loving crap out of someone who wore white/cream/ivory/ecru/eggshell or any other shade of white to a wedding. Hell no. That's the bride's colour, and you don't wear it.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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