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Cute ways to ask...

Lee+AndrewLee+Andrew member
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Hi Everyone! I've seen so many cute ways to ask friends/family to be their MOH/bridesmaids but what about the men? Does anyone have any unique ways of asking them to be in the wedding party? I'd like to make it memorable and more special than just asking them outright. Thanks!
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Asking someone to be in your wedding is and of itself memorable and special.  Having a box filled with a ring pop and a bridesmaid t-shirt will not make it any more special.  In fact doing something over the top could pressure people into saying yes when in fact they want to say no.

    Just get together with each of your friends individually, maybe for a drink or two or for dinner and just ask them.  Trust me, that is enough.

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    KatWAGKatWAG member
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    I would get ask the person in a one on one setting. I never got the ring pops and fancy cards.
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    KatWAG said:
    I would get ask the person in a one on one setting. I never got the ring pops and fancy cards.
    I never really got them either.  You aren't "proposing" to your friends, you are just asking them to be BM.  So why the need for all the cutesy shit?

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    doeydodoeydo member
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    You could ask it with beer:image
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    Lee+AndrewLee+Andrew member
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    I guess it's just a preference. I was asked to be a bridesmaid once over text and I thought it was a bit strange. Of course I'm going to ask them in person but I want it to be something more than just, "Hey, be my groomsman/bridesmaid?" I'm very into cute, quirky and fun things. Thanks for the suggestions!
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    MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    If you make a production of every little detail leading up to your wedding, wedding fatigue will set in very quickly. Your fi should be the one who asks his men to stand up for him. Is he looking for a cutesy way to do that? He should ask each person, individually, so no one feels pressured. 
                       
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I guess it's just a preference. I was asked to be a bridesmaid once over text and I thought it was a bit strange. Of course I'm going to ask them in person but I want it to be something more than just, "Hey, be my groomsman/bridesmaid?" I'm very into cute, quirky and fun things. Thanks for the suggestions!
    I agree that asking through a text message is strange and impersonal. But asking with a "cutesy" item or in quirky way does not make it more personal or meaningful. Asking someone in person or over the phone if they live far away is just as personal and meaningful as if you asked them by giving them a bottle of wine with a "cute" poem attached to it.

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    You should buy them a huge teddy bear in a tux and write a cute poem. Men love that shit. They just pretend they don't. 
    I agree with this. Definitely. Make sure your poem rhymes and has a sing-song flow to it. The longer the better. Riddles in poetry form are best. Make them figure out what you're trying to say. 

    An alternative would be getting them monogrammed satin pjs with "groomsman" and your wedding date written on the butt. He'll definitely get a ton of use out of these.
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Just ask them.  No need to be "cute" about it.
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    I bought my girls personalized cards. It was cute, but in no way "a production." They all said it was something they are going to keep. I took each of them to lunch separately and casually handed them the card.
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    tabathafaye said:
    Lee+Andrew

    I bought my girls personalized cards. It was cute, but in no way "a production." They all said it was something they are going to keep. I took each of them to lunch separately and casually handed them the card.
    Inviting your bridesmaids to lunch is fine, but skip the keepsakes, gifts, cards, etc. and just ask them.
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    chasingsunlightchasingsunlight member
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    I got each of my bridesmaids a box with a candle inside.  On the lid of the box, it said "My wedding wouldn't be as bright (or as hot!) without you.  Will you be my bridesmaid?"

    I'll see if I can find a picture.
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