I am the MOH for my best friend who happens to live about 2000 miles away. After much discussion my DH and I have decided that I can fly out for the weekend of her bridal shower. Despite being very far away, I am taking charge of the bridal shower planning with her other 8 BMs. I plan to help with all aspects and chip in my share financially. Would it be of poor taste to give a small personalized gift to her for the shower, since the real gift will be me flying to see her? The other BMs are thinking about going in together on a larger item for her as a gift, but financially for me that may not be something I could do.