Let me start this off by saying that the bartender tried to put a tip jar up on the bar and I told her not too and that we would take care of them at the end of the night. I found out that one of the bartenders said this to one of my guests when he went to the bar "Your friend is making you look bad, he left a tip". This friend felt bad so he walked back out to his car to get his wallet to tip her. I was really embarrassed when I found this out a few days later and feel like calling the company and telling them that I thought this was really inappropriate. Am I over-reacting?
Side note: Apparently since I told them no tip jar, they required us to pay a dollar per person (estimated number we gave weeks ago) per bartender for the tip. I wasn't happy but I was understanding. Then come to find out they had been accepting tips all night and telling us that we still had to pay the same flat rate tip. This doesn't bother me as much as the issue above though.