My FI and I have never made joint decisions before, and attemting to do so now has left us kinda irritated with each other. I'm starting to think that planning a wedding and trying to find a house in another city is probably a bit much. Generally my FI has no opinion about things, until he does. I am a planner, I like to start collecting my options several months in advance and suprisingly he's an "oh, we're two weeks out lets throw something together" So, needless to say, this is more about the house hunt than it is about the wedding. (Even though he's done this in planning as well). For the last four or five months, I have been collecting and maintaining a list of possibilities. My FI gave me a budget and we discussed what we were looking for in a place. He said as long as it was in budget we could go for it. Fast forward, the budget he gave me is no longer what he wants to spend, and he feels like he's well within reason to change his mind after I did ALL the work. I was willing to compromise and find something he'd like, but after he said "He could dictate the final selection if he wanted to..." and suggested that the relationship we have is similar to an employee manager relationship, I was done. For some reason he thinks I treat money like a 7 year old. Told him he could pick whatever place he wanted...but that I would no longer be involved in the search. Funniest part is my mom and I are slated to go to the new city next week, plane tickets, hotel, and rental care booked. -_- I'm really worried that maybe we don't work very well together, and he totally stubborn so if there is any fault to be had on his side, he won't see it for a couple of weeks. I was a jerk and I know this...the last thing I said to the man, after he told me I needed to work on being a better listener and that I should stop making things about me was " Sure. I'll work on that. Right after I learn how to make big girl decisions with my money."
*Slaps back of hand*