I have a huge extended family which has made our guest list tight and my MIL is insisting on adding her friends with their adult children who neither of us (my fiancé and I) know. I realize that with this being her first family wedding, she wants eeeeeeeveryone to come, but how to I break it to her that we'd rather have our friends take those spots than her friends? Is that rude/selfish? His parents are paying for alcohol, so they should have some say, I know. She's wanting to add 32 people that we don't know...it's kind of a big number and it bumps our growing list to 238 people. My mom has married 3 daughters, so she's gotten it all out of her system and has been deferring to me on which of her friends to invite. I don't want to hurt my MIL's feelings, but 32 people is a bit ridiculous! When my fiancé addressed it initially, she responded, "They'll get you guys nice gifts." Seriously?! It's quite frustrating.