Snarky Brides

Gift Grabby?

I promise that this isn't my photo or idea, but a friend of mine (you can read about her in other posts) "pinned" this today and it struck me funny.

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This just screams "PUT THE PRESENTS HERE!!!!" to me.  Is it just me, or should a "gift table" be more discreet?
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Re: Gift Grabby?

  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches the Northern Plains
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    Not just you. That definitely raised my eyebrows.
  • I don't like that at all......
  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher Looking over your shoulder
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    I could see that at a shower where gifts are sort or expected. But a wedding? No.
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  • BlergbotBlergbot An enchanted land
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    I think whoever's wedding this was, they were more aiming for cute and vintage. Even if it's from a photo shoot. They just aren't thinking about etiquette. They're thinking about how they can be cute and clever.
  • CaliMel11CaliMel11
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    I dunno, I don't mind it. There's obviously a gift table, so to me it's not gift grabby so much as just thanking people. *shrug*

    I like that a lot better than the other version I've seen that actually says "Gifts" and then the cardbox says "Cards" on it.
    Somehow that one seems a lot worse to me, and ruder.
  • The only thing i have a problem with is the "thank-you" sign...i really hope that the bride who made that doesn't think it counts as the official thank you, and she just got out of sending a card.  Buuuuuut i bet she does.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall
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    delujm0 said:
    The only thing i have a problem with is the "thank-you" sign...i really hope that the bride who made that doesn't think it counts as the official thank you, and she just got out of sending a card.  Buuuuuut i bet she does.

    Why assume that putting that on the table means she won't write cards? Some people handed me cards at the wedding. I thanked them then AND sent a card. I doubt anyone assumed I assumed my on-site thank you was enough and that that's all they'd be getting.
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  • Should it be more descreet? I don't know, I don't really see anything wrong with it... it's better than a painted wooden sign with an arrow pointing the way I suppose. It's not the most tactful thing I've seen.

    How else are you supposed to label it though? Maybe that's the question...

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  • KatWAGKatWAG Chicago
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    We actually had people complain that our card box was too discreet and people couldnt find it.
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  • I don't see anything wrong with it...as long as it is there for decoration during a SHOWER only...not for a wedding and not to be used as a thank you card!  
  • I don't see how this is rude. People normally set up a table for gifts at a wedding because some people do bring gifts to a wedding and the bride and groom can't carry the gifts around the entire reception. I think it is a good setup to indicate where the gifts go, if someone does bring a gift and obviously to not sit at that table. What I would think of as gift grabby is someone putting something crazy on the invite like "Thank you in advance for any gifts" or something ostentatious like that.
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  • InkdancerInkdancer The Shire
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    Assuming this table is in a corner somewhere and not in the center of the room, I think it's kind of nice. Instead of saying "put your cash here!!" they are at least attempting to be grateful.
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  • AddieL73 said:
    delujm0 said:
    The only thing i have a problem with is the "thank-you" sign...i really hope that the bride who made that doesn't think it counts as the official thank you, and she just got out of sending a card.  Buuuuuut i bet she does.

    Why assume that putting that on the table means she won't write cards? Some people handed me cards at the wedding. I thanked them then AND sent a card. I doubt anyone assumed I assumed my on-site thank you was enough and that that's all they'd be getting.


    Just being snarky.  with all of the people that come on here and complain about not getting thank you cards for their gifts, or getting a "generic" thank you card that is just a picture of the B&G holding a sign that says thank you but notihng else, i don't think that's out of the question here.  That's what the sign reminded me of.  The people that come on here and are like "the thank you card was just a picture of the B&G holding a sign that said "thank you," and a printed generic message that they sent to everyone!  They didn't even bother personalizing the message, or writing it by hand!"

     

    i don't think it's crazy to have a gift table though.  People definitely want a place to put their stuff...i'll probably throw a basket or something on my escort card table for any cards.  i'm forever bringing cards to weddings and looking for where on earth i should put them on my way in.

  • AddieL73 said:

    I don't really see it as a big deal. It's a wedding. People ARE going to give you gifts. I painted and rhinestoned letters for various tables at our wedding including one for the gifts so people knew where to put them. It's possible people thought it was tacky, but I didn't and don't. They DID, after all, have gifts for us and needed a place to put them. 



    I don't think it's a big deal either. I'm going to have a cute box for cards, but I don't assume or expect every guest to give a card. If I were a guest to this wedding, I would think it was nice.
  • climbingwifeclimbingwife NYC 'burbs
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    Not a fan. 

  • I stand by my opinion, I feel that if it were at a wedding it just makes a huge statement about gifts and blatantly says, "we know you are going to bring gifts and expected them" 

    Idk, my "gift table" will be off to the side with a plain white tablecloth. 
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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 Dirty Jerz
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    I do think this is a little too flashy for a gift table.  But everybody has gift tables anyway, so it's not really a big deal.  The whole vintage/cutesy thing is just NMS though, so anything in that "look" would bother me.
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  • IDK, it is kinda flashy, as some said. But again, I've been to weddings where there WASN'T a table. Some where you had to ask, and look dumb :-/ One cousin, had originally said it was all in one room. So, half the guests were holding presents in their LAPS, b/c she switched it, and no one would allow guests in the reception area to drop the gifts off.

    Ours is going to be a combo table. FH and I saw this on pinterest earlier, and I made the comment that it was bold. So we agreed that the guest book table would double, and just have it word of mouth. OR, as I was texting MOH at the same time, she said her sister intentionally put her gift out while they were decorating the room, so that people could find the table, but there wasn't any special attention brought to it.
  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher Looking over your shoulder
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    Our venue is providing two 8' rectangular tables for us - one for escort cards and guest book, the other for gifts and cards. I figure if we put whatever container we'll use for the cards on one of the boxes, that should be a pretty clear indicator of where the gifts/cards should go. I mean, an empty table with a bird cage/chest/big box on it shouldn't need an explanation, right?
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  • >>i don't think it's crazy to have a gift table though.  People definitely want a place to put their stuff.

    What?  Where I live, no one brings gifts to the wedding.  Gifts are sent from the store (where the registry is) directly to the bride's house or mother-of-the-bride's house, or gifts are taken personally to the bride's house or the MOB's house - at least a week prior to the wedding.
  • InkdancerInkdancer The Shire
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    >>i don't think it's crazy to have a gift table though.  People definitely want a place to put their stuff.

    What?  Where I live, no one brings gifts to the wedding.  Gifts are sent from the store (where the registry is) directly to the bride's house or mother-of-the-bride's house, or gifts are taken personally to the bride's house or the MOB's house - at least a week prior to the wedding.
    I've never been to a wedding to which people did not bring boxed gifts. It varies by social circle, I think.
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  • I don't think it's the worst thing I've ever seen. It could have been done a better, to me, the bird cage symbolizes where to put cards...cards go with gifts.... maybe she didn't want people to wander around....?
  • PolarBearFitzPolarBearFitz
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    This is one of those things where you are going to have a gift table at a wedding. It just is what it is. I don't particularly care for the sign but you're going to have a table for people to place their gift on if they brought one.

    I don't think it is gift grabby since it's just a place for your guests to put their gift if in fact they did bring one. Gift grabby would be something you did before the wedding to encourage gifting. A gift table is more of 'Hey, if you happened to bring something put it here. The end.'

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  • OnceUponSnowOnceUponSnow
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    I see nothing tacky or ''gift-grabby'' about this picture. I have pictures of my grandparents' wedding, and gift tables like these were huge ! The only difference is this one has a thank you note on it. But they're absolutely common and traditional in my area, especially at times where the couple had their wedding reception at the bride's home, and the couple didn't already live together. They set tables like these so the guests knew where to put the gifts when they arrived for the reception. 

    Today, it is more common for guests to offer money instead of boxed gifts. Seeing cardboxes with a thank you note doesn't offend me either. When you plan a wedding, you have to think about your guests, and most of them will want to know where to put their gift/envelope right away - there's nothing wrong in making this, well, obvious, instead of having them wonder if they should give the envelope to the bride's mom, or the bride's sister, or the maid of honor, or the groom's uncle ...



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