Some background: Wedding will be civil, former mayor presiding. My family is primarily Jewish and I was raised to consider myself Jewish but we never practiced at all...more of a culture than a religion in our family. FI was raised Catholic but they've largely shifted to a looser form of Christianity. Many go to church. FI does not.
We were planning on two readings at the wedding. My Mom is doing one and I generally suggested looking for prose or poetry on the topic of love (and googling "civil wedding reading"). At first, FI's mom was doing the 2nd. I was present for the convo and said I thought it would make me and my guests uncomfortable if it was bible-based...she seemed FINE with that. Now, she backed out. FI plans to ask one of his sisters. But he feels she should get to pick what she wants...and that it will likely be pretty religious.
I think we can ask her to keep it civil and even ask to approve it (in the end, after I'd sent her a few samples and got her to the right sites, my mom sent me three things she likes to pick from). He thinks that the reading comes from her and should be what she talked about wants. Thoughts?
And, before it is asked, yes we've talked about the role of religion in our lives and for possible kids. So it is a confined matter