My fiancee and I are wondering if it is rude to have a private ceremony(5pm) with cocktails and appetizers, and then a reception(6pm) an hour later with a larger guest list? It is a lesbian wedding and we really only want a small group at the reception. We think many of the guests would be more then happy to come to the reception, but would feel uncomfortable at the ceremony. We want the ceremony really casual and comfortable. Guests drinking and snaking as they watch the ceremony, no seats, just a quick 10 minute little ceremony. Just wondering what people think. thanks