So I had my invites printed and put the *actual* start time of the ceremony (7 pm) on the invite. We have 7-7:30 for the ceremony and cocktail hour is 7:30 to 8:30. We just met with our officiant and she said she prefers couples to put the start time as 30 min before the actual start time. I said I didn't want people waiting around and being pissed that we didn't start at the time we said we would. She said she understands that, but that if half the people aren't there by 7:10 we are not going to want to start, and that then the ceremony will run into our cocktail hour time. My DOC also said the same thing.
Do I need to start worrying now and having our parents spread by word of mouth that the *actual* start time is 7? Do I put on my wedding website that 7 is the true start time? Apparently these wedding professionals think people don't know to get there on time.