Everyone posting here is assuming I've been a total bridezilla during the wedding planning. Just to clear a few things up:
1. I've never cried about the girls not being able to come to my appointments. I was bummed but not that bummed. Them not being there didn't affect my dress experience at all. It just would've been nice for them to be there with me.
2. I was never angry that they couldn't come either except for when my MOH bailed last minute. It annoys me when people flake. Just be responsible. If you tell someone you're going to do it, do it. I've never once mentioned it to ANYONE that I felt this way- that is why I posted it on here. To get it off my chest and all I've got was judged.
3. I'm pretty positive I haven't been a bridezilla at all. My entire motto when planning this wedding has "It'll work out. Whatever happens, happens." ..all the bridesmaids have got to chose everything when it comes to them- dress, shoes, accessories, hair, and makeup. The only thing I picked was the dress color. I've never demanded or asked for anything.
4. I'm not planning my own bridal shower. Jeeze. My MOH brought it up and picked the day, booked the venue, and told several people about it via word of mouth. Now, it is only a little over a month away and she hasn't thought about invitations, food, if there if will be games, etc. That's what I mean by "planning". I'm a "planner" type person and she's not. So that's why I think about these types of things.
5. I totally understand they aren't as excited as me. Duh. You all are assuming I'm a selfish little b****. I just said that I was disappointed/bummed. I have no idea how that got translated into all the things you all were saying. I just wanted to spend time with my best friends and share this experience with them. I feel like if you asked someone to be a MOH or bridesmaid and they agree, they are obviously a close enough friend that they should want to do more than just "stand up there" during your wedding day. What's even the point of having MOH/bridesmaids then? They told me in the beginning they WANTED to go to the dress fittings since they couldn't go when I picked it out. So, when I told them what day is was and the response I got back was, "I can't go, I'm busy." it hurt my feelings a little. They didn't say sorry or acted liked they even cared. I just feel like if I was in that position I would at least apologize or act a little more enthusiastic.
7. It hasn't affected ANY of the my relationships with the girls. The only relationship that has been strained is the one between the two MOHs. They don't like each other but they're adults. Sometimes you have to work with people you don't like. That's life. Get over it.
8. I also completely understand that we are all busy. Personally, I've taking 17 credit hours and work two part-time jobs. I've never once complained about them not being able to do something because of work or school. Like I said earlier though, if you say you want to do something or will do something, I expect you to follow through. I was raised to keep my promises.
9. I wasn't expecting a "sugar coating". I was looking for some real advice like "Why don't you try talking to them and seeing what they want to participate in" type of thing or looking for someone who had a similar experience.
10. It's not like I think about this 24/7. My 2nd fitting is just next week so I recently thought about it. Like I said, I just wanted to get it off my chest. It's not like it is some huge ordeal.
11. I am planning my wedding with my fiance but obviously he isn't going to go to dress fittings with me. I wasn't wanting to plan the entire wedding with my MOHs/bridesmaids--just get ideas and opinions from them. Like for decor and flowers. Things a guy shouldn't care about. I don't think I ever said I "dreamed" about planning my wedding with my friends. I guess I just thought that's how it was planned.Then again, I've never got married before so I have no idea!
I appreciate the comments that were helpful, I just don't want people thinking I'm some crazy b**** bridezilla. I just wanted to get some little thing I was thinking about off my chest and since I wasn't going to tell my best friends (my MOHs/bridesmaids), I thought here would be a good place to do it.