Anyone else starting to lose it?

CookieD86 · March 2014

I have had an amazing year of being engaged. I got everything done so early and it has not been stressful at all, I couldnt understand what other brides were saying when they would have their "freak out " moments. WOAH let me tell you. I have 2 1/2 months to go, and I cannot wait to marry the love of my life HOWEVER, I am freaking out because it feels like there is now SO much to do and so very little time to do it. My mom and future MIL is assuring me that everything will get done in time, and somewhere deep inside my recent bridezilla and anxious self, Im sure I know it's true. But as of the last 2 weeks, total insomnia because I just keep thinking about all the things I need to do for the next day.

I do yoga, which helps, and go for massages every now and then. I even keep a "to do " list to just get it out of my system. But still it just feels like 1000 things going on: I have my invitations to finish and send out next week (crossing my fingers), appointments to make, etc etc etc.

Anyone else heading towards their wedding date and starting to get this "ill never get this all done" feeling?

hlvonb · March 2014

I haven't quite reached freak out yet but I am getting there. I blame part of it on my OCD. I am still a couple months out but I am sure my "freaking" will get worse as it gets closer. I too was like you and did a lot of planning and booking in advance. We will have been engaged for 19 months by the time we're married.

themuffinman16 · March 2014

I have 4 months left, and I have yet to book my florist. I am doing that tomorrow (all ready got my flower quotes). I am also starting to assemble my invitations this week (completely from scratch). When the knot tells me I have reached the next month of my checklist I freak out because I have not completed the previous months checklist. I'm up at 5 am worried about making a dermatology appt, tomorrow. I get 4 hours of sleep when I always get a solid 8. I still have to book the wedding transportation ( thinking of a town car), Still have to book dance lessons, do a dry run of favors, paint table numbers, and make ceremony paper cones for confetti. Not to mention my to-do list is taking time away from the gym and I am worried if the dress will fit. If I had more money, I would strongly think about a wedding coordinator. Lol.

seshat303 · March 2014

We've got about a month and half left and it's the little things that are starting to break me. I'm having issues finding a decent, convenient printer (the place we used for our invites was awesome, but awful hours and I just have table signs and things like that left). I'm stressing out about getting an RSVP back from a friend who's husband is an epic douche-canoe (sure I'll barely have to see him if they come, but who the heck would I sit at that table?). I just dropped my dress off at the tailor to get straps added to it and I'm just worried I won't like the end result (why? I don't know). Two of my three bridesmaids are also having dress issues (they're picking their own--knee length, navy--and haven't found anything they like yet).

On top of that, one of our cats just ate my damn veil. I picked up some Russian Veiling to try and make a birdcage veil, cut it to shape and set it on the table. The other night I picked it up to work on gathering it and it has CHUNKS missing all around it. At first I though it maybe accidentally got cut during another project at the table... but I haven't done anything and FI hasn't done anything. I went to grab the remaining piece from my desk to see if there was enough left to work with and that one's missing chunks too! So either it's spontaneously degrading, or one of the cats is eating it. We're not sure which one is the culprit, and neither has been acting weird, but that cannot be good to ingest so I'm worried about the stupid little monsters now too.

I don't have ton of DIY stuff left (to make: jewelry, headpiece, crinoline, cake topper, table signs, card box, escort cards) and most are at least started. Things just don't seem to be going smoothly anymore and past anxiety issues are starting to be a problem again which makes things seem even more stressful.

Chipmunk415 · March 2014

I was in your shoes about 2 months ago. I freaked out about everything left to do, but ultimately, I got it all together and had a beautiful, perfect wedding day. Sure, there were some minor mishaps. But everything was wonderful, our guests had a great time, and I married my awesome, amazing, and loving husband.

emmyg65 · March 2014

I gave myself permission to let stuff go. I did everything in priority order, so as my date approached, I could just drop stuff that was driving me crazy.

Remember that as long as your guests have a comfortable place to sit and enough food, they'll be fine. And as long as you remember your FI, your officiant, and your license, you'll be fine. Your goal is just to end up married at the end of the day. Everything else is gravy.

JMalettas · March 2014

I can sooo remember having freak out moments, in the last couple of months leading up to the wedding! I am like the most organized and well prepared person out there, and still had anxiety. I think the 2 worst, were trying to get my H's side's addresses for invites. (His sister was one of my BMs, & I asked her if is she didn't mind getting them, as I didn't know everyone, & still ended up having to do most of that myself). Then I think the last meeting with vendors the week of the wedding, & trying to make sure everyone knew what they were doing, and what was to happen, was my last 'thing.' Just having anxiety over hoping it would all run smoothly. (Which it totally did). I think what surprised me the most, was that I was totally chill the day of our wedding. I really expected to be overwhelmed with making sure it all went well, but I had this attitude of, 'whatever happens now, happens, & why ruin the day over something I can't control anymore.' I worked so hard, and had everything so organized, that if anything was to happen, it was pretty much meant to. :P

I look back now, and almost miss the craziness of wedding planning, anxiety and all. It goes by so fast! Try and enjoy the experience, & know that regardless, you're marrying the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

*J

ElcaB · March 2014

We are seven months out. We have the major things taken care of (venue, music, photographer) but have tons of details that need planned.

Right now, I'm freaking out about finding a dress. I found one I love and can afford, but it's two times what I feel comfortable paying. I'm kind of in panic mode. Due to the dress stress, everything else seems a million times more stressful than it actually is. I'm turning into a crazy lady about it. Once I figure out the dress situation, I feel like I'll be much more calm about planning.

MrsAitch · March 2014

I was freaking out at about the 2 month mark too. Now we're down to about 1.5 months and I'm much calmer--just try to knock out a bunch of things from your to-do list, and you'll feel much better.

chibiyui · March 2014

Today is 2 months. I am defintely starting to panic.

FiancB · March 2014

Just over three months here and I'm freaking a bit. Making my invitations is my main stress right now but really everybody already knows the date and the place so I keep reminding myself they're more of a formality than anything and they'll get done when they get done.

Peaseblossom55 · March 2014

I am a little under 3 months out and now all of these smaller details are starting to come into play. I'm really hoping to stay on top of stuff and stay ahead of the game. The earlier it gets done the better.

SBmini · March 2014

It hits me every once and a while. Like today when I realized we'd be flying home on Saturday for our final meetings/walk throughs and to get our marriage license WHOA! I feel like I still have so much to do, but then I go to my check list and it's all taken care of. Very little left. My fiance has started to hate Saturdays because each one means we're one week closer to the wedding. And he's getting nervous, worrying that something will go wrong, or won't be done, etc.

CookieD86 · March 2014

You guys have made me feel a WHOLE LOT BETTER. I really thought it was just my anxiety, but I guess it's completely normal. I just came home from a hot stone massage, and of course the first thing i do is check my registry, my tracking numbers (from fed ex) and The Knot lol. It seems like we're all in the same boat, super excited but stressed to the MAX. I seriously want to crawl up into my bed and eat an entire box of chocolate........but to the invitations I go (insert violin)

cruffino · March 2014

CookieD86 said:
You guys have made me feel a WHOLE LOT BETTER. I really thought it was just my anxiety, but I guess it's completely normal. I just came home from a hot stone massage, and of course the first thing i do is check my registry, my tracking numbers (from fed ex) and The Knot lol. It seems like we're all in the same boat, super excited but stressed to the MAX. I seriously want to crawl up into my bed and eat an entire box of chocolate........but to the invitations I go (insert violin)

Totally normal. I was like you, I did the majority of the planning early and just coasted for months. Once it came to invitation time, shit git real. There are just so many details that can't be handled until the end, and it feels overwhelming, but you'll get it done and it will be awesome.

amakayeb · March 2014

Good to hear...the stress is slowly starting to build up for me. I don't think it helped that we went to a dear friend's amazing wedding this weekend, which definitely reminded me of quite a few things still on our to-do list! Plus, it's been a crazy stressful month at work. One more week until spring break, and then I'll be able to get quite a bit done...

Cokezerofreak · March 2014

12 days to go here. Totally freaking out. At least FI is now not sleeping well just like me so he can join in the fun. I think when he gets here on Monday I'll be a whole lot better.

princessleia22 · March 2014

I'm about 3 months out and get stressed off and on. My latest issues are all related to work getting extremely busy and not having much time to deal with wedding stuff lately. The big issue with that is that my DIY invites need to go out in about a week and I need to finish assembling them. And lately there has been a lot of stress to make sure everyone in wedding party has attire at least ordered. But, I'm a big believer in thinking that things will always work out in the end. My basic wedding stuff is all included in package with venue. Even if I don't finish my DIY bouquets (which I've already bought everything for), they will have one bouquet and one boutonniere when we get there. So, whenever I stress out too much, I just tell myself that as long as people show up (mainly me and FI), it will be a great day because I'll be marrying my best friend. Everything else is optional. I'm sure I'll have a bigger freak out about a month or so before wedding. At that time I've got to submit final guest list to venue, along with all of our choices for food, cake, etc. Plus, that's a busy time at work for me, so I'll be overloaded there, along with trying to get work stuff done to take time off for my wedding. So, I know the last month will be insane, but it will all work out in the end. But, I think that is all perfectly normal.

CookieD86 · March 2014

nicoann said:

I'm about 3 months out and get stressed off and on. My latest issues are all related to work getting extremely busy and not having much time to deal with wedding stuff lately. The big issue with that is that my DIY invites need to go out in about a week and I need to finish assembling them. And lately there has been a lot of stress to make sure everyone in wedding party has attire at least ordered. But, I'm a big believer in thinking that things will always work out in the end. My basic wedding stuff is all included in package with venue. Even if I don't finish my DIY bouquets (which I've already bought everything for), they will have one bouquet and one boutonniere when we get there. So, whenever I stress out too much, I just tell myself that as long as people show up (mainly me and FI), it will be a great day because I'll be marrying my best friend. Everything else is optional. I'm sure I'll have a bigger freak out about a month or so before wedding. At that time I've got to submit final guest list to venue, along with all of our choices for food, cake, etc. Plus, that's a busy time at work for me, so I'll be overloaded there, along with trying to get work stuff done to take time off for my wedding. So, I know the last month will be insane, but it will all work out in the end. But, I think that is all perfectly normal.

Girl you are so right! That is a really great mentality and really everyone on here is right. Everything will work out in the end bc as long as it's you and the one you love that day, nothing else will matter. However I'm with you on the invites; I'm putting them together myself and need to get out by next week so My mantra is "I'm doing the best that I can" . Next is ordering tedious things like ribbon and the wrapping paper to order for the favors. So dumb but it has to get done.......wine anyone? Tequila? Lol

soontobemrszito · March 2014

I'm 17 days out. I honestly didn't start freaking out until yesterday. Not about getting married, just about the little details that I have to get done in the next 2 weeks. And it's really just little tiny stuff that doesn't even matter. I keep telling myself that....that at this point, if we had to go to the church now...we'd still be getting married and it would be wonderful. I know I am just an anxious person in general, so that's probably why, but it's just so hard to believe that we're getting so close! So I think it's definitely normal to be nervous once you get closer to the day. And I'm sure we'll all be fine like the other ladies said

Elitefourabby · March 2014

Four months, and I'm starting to lose it completely. All of my maids live in other states, as does my mother. I've only ever BEEN to one wedding, so experience is no help. I'm trying to stick to checklists but I can't help feeling like stuff is slipping through the cracks. That, coupled with my anxiety issues, mean I'm a wreck most of the time.

Anyone else starting to lose it?

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