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"Declines with regrets"?

offthemarket915offthemarket915 member
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edited March 2014 in Wedding Invitations & Paper

I am finalizing our invites, etc. and the RSVP card includes the following wording:

____  accepts with pleasure

____  declines with regrets

 

Is it just me (or the DayQuil), or does the second one sound off?  Should it be declines with regret (singular?)  Or is it assuming two people declining, in which case "regret(s)" might be preferable?

 

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    majesty318majesty318 member
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    It should be just regret.
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    offthemarket915offthemarket915 member
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    Thanks, thought so

     

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    CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited March 2014
    I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.
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    princessleia22princessleia22 member
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    CMGragain said:
    I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.
    Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.

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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    nicoann said:
    CMGragain said:
    I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.
    Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.
    No, don't try to co-opt someone's emotions about their RSVP.  That really crosses boundaries inappropriately.  Just use "accepts" and "declines." 
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Yeah, I prefer just accepts/ declines or will/ will not attend.
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    MollyandDMollyandD member
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    Jen4948 said:
    nicoann said:
    CMGragain said:
    I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.
    Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.
    No, don't try to co-opt someone's emotions about their RSVP.  That really crosses boundaries inappropriately.  Just use "accepts" and "declines." 

    I thought that was sarcasm.
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Molly&Domenic said:
    Jen4948 said:
    nicoann said:
    CMGragain said:
    I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.
    Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.
    No, don't try to co-opt someone's emotions about their RSVP.  That really crosses boundaries inappropriately.  Just use "accepts" and "declines." 

    I thought that was sarcasm.
    No indication of it.
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    lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I like just accepts or declines.  i always felt "with pleasure" or "with regrets" as presumptuous. 


    There are some weddings I've declined with pleasure and accepted with regrets.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    banana468banana468 member
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    Ditto PPs that I'm not a fan of any added emotion on the response cards.
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    hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    mine says ____ attending
                       ____ not attending

    then under it it lists our menu choices

    ____  twin stuffed lobster tails ____prime rib
    ____  chicken francaise ____eggplant parmigiana

    i had to proof read ours so many times and make sure i looked up spelling as the company we used theamericanwedding wanted an extra 25$ for a digital proof
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