Good morning! My fiance and I got a question about plus ones yesterday, and I wanted to make sure we are handling it appropriately.
My fiance's friend asked us if he could bring a date to our August wedding. He's not currently dating anyone, so we aren't talking about a SO (at least, at this moment).
My fiance and I would like to give single guests a "plus one" if possible, because most people are traveling at least a couple hours to our wedding. However, we will run into a space issue if we have 100% attendance AND we give all of our truly single guests a date. We do not expect 100% attendance, as our guest list includes, for example, ailing elderly relatives who are not able to fly. With the people who are likely to decline, we anticipate that we should have no problem giving our single friends a plus one.
Is it ok to tell this friend (and any others who ask) that we will invite anyone he is dating at the time that we send our invitations, but that we will need to wait until we get our RSVPs before letting him know if he can bring another guest? If so, is there a way to say this that doesn't sound like we are penalizing him for being single?
(Note: The "space issue" is just a dance floor issue. If we get 100% attendance AND all our guests are dating someone, we will still be able to host everyone by eliminating dancing)