I'm working full time and attending law school at night and my wedding is a month after finals, so that isn't a big deal but my spring semester is Federal Income Tax, Secured Transactions, Sales and Leases and Toxic Torts which will be a heavy load. That being said, would it be tacky for me to tell my MOH and BMs that I want my shower held on a specific day? I worry that if I leave it to my non-law school friends and family, they will hold it too close to finals. I pretty much go into lock down mode about 5 weeks before finals. Or would it be better if I communicate that after April 6, I cannot have any pre-wedding parties planned? Or should I ask them to wait until after Finals are over? Thanks!