I've mentioned a dear friend of mine who is getting married right before me and all of her...interesting ideas and poor planning (no ceremony chairs, taking over planning her bachlorette despite her sisters doing it, changing the BM dresses multiple times after some of us ordering them, expecting the WP to do all the set-up/tear down on the day of, etc), and every time I say to myself, this is is, it won't get any worse, what else could she do?
I'm going to stop asking myself that now.
A few weeks ago she decided she would need us to come over tomorrow for a "craft day" to help her put all the wedding "crafts" together. I side-eyed this pretty hard at first, thinking - "I'm not your slave, do your own damn crafts!" since I have not asked my BMs (including her) to do anything for our wedding. Then I thought about it and since I can't go to her destination-bachelorette weekend (see
this <-- click), I thought I should make more effort to be a good friend and just help. Since bringing up the craft day, she has moved the location 3x, and sent out weekly texts and Facebook messages reminding us when it is, what we will be doing, and that she needs to know who all can be there.
When I woke up to yet another reminder this morning (I've lost count, we're in the 10's now), I wanted to flip my lid. I get telling us when the location has changed, but to send me her address 10+ times and remind me to be there at 10 when we've had a one-on-one conversation that I have my hair trial at 10 and finals to study for, just makes me so stabby.
I'm tired of being seen as a barbie-doll BM, I want to look at her and scream, "I'm your friend, not your prop, do you see me treating you this way???". Sheesh, some brides.... I need some wine.