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To have or to not have a bridal party

Nikita2013Nikita2013 member
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So my fiance and I have been having this discussion for a while and I'm hoping you guys can give me some insight. See I'm thinking we should have a bridal party because it's more traditional n it would b fun to have some of my best friends up there with us to participate in the wedding planning and so forth. My fiance thinks it's not a good idea because we aren't a traditional couple so what does it matter? But I guess my hesititation is that you know how they come in twos? There aren't many couples that we know of or that we trust in order to put into our bridal party so it has me a little worried. thoughts? thanks so much for the help!
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  • Nikita2013Nikita2013 member
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    Also I forgot to add that I would love to have my sister involved in the wedding party, but I don't like her boyfriend..my best friend asked to be my maid of honor but I want my sister to be my maid of honor. I'm sure for my best friend she wouldn't mind being a bridesmaid either I'm just not sure how to tell her. It's just kinda a big mess.
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  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    You don't need to have couples in your wedding party. In fact, most wedding parties are not comprised of couples. You pick your side and your partner picks theirs. The sides don't have to match either.

    That said, we didn't have a wedding party and it was awesome. No stress, no drama, no additional expenses (for us or them). Obviously, we still celebrated with our nearest and dearest because they were invited to the wedding.
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    What? Wedding party members absolutely do not have to be couples. I've been a bridesmaid a number of times and only in one of those weddings has FI also been a groomsman. Think about individuals, not couples.

    If your FI doesn't want anyone standing on his side, that's fine. You can have bridesmaids still even if he doesn't have anyone on his side. Your friend should not have asked to be MOH - that's pushy and rude. But regardless, if she does it again, say "Friend, I love you and I want you standing up there with me, but my sister is going to be my MOH." If she gets dramatic about it, she's being a ridiculous drama queen. You could also have no MOH (I don't have one) or two MOHs.

    For what it's worth, I have 6 bridesmaids and have had ZERO drama with them. I went with them to get dresses (they picked their own style), gave them a rough schedule, and then let them do their own thing. No drama or stress whatsoever.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Where in the hell did you get the idea that wedding parties are made up of couples? I would say that's more rare than the norm. 

    Your best friend was out of line asking to be the MOH. You don't ask if you can participate in someone's wedding. If you want your sister to be your MOH, then make your sister your MOH. When your rude friend asks why, tell her it's b/c you wanted it that way and change the subject. 


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  • bananasplit472001bananasplit472001 member
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    We do not have couples in our wedding party.  All the girls will walk alone and so will the guys one after the other.  Tell your sister you want her to be MOH and tell your friend that she can be a bridesmaid.  Then tell you FI that if he wants to have people stand up with him.  Even if it is just a Best Man and no groomsman its fine.  
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Wedding party members do not have to be couples.  None of my attendants would be a couple with any of my BF's.

    You can say to your best friend, "I'd love to have you in my wedding party, but my sister will be my MOH."  (Assuming that your sister is going to do that.)
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  • Emmy1493Emmy1493 member
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    Wedding parties should consist of people who are dear to you. Same goes with FI's side. If you want them up there, by all means, ask away! But remember, once you ask them, you cannot kick them out...unless you want to end the friendship. Choose wisely. And also, good luck! :) 
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    Nikita2013 said:
    So my fiance and I have been having this discussion for a while and I'm hoping you guys can give me some insight. See I'm thinking we should have a bridal party because it's more traditional n it would b fun to have some of my best friends up there with us to participate in the wedding planning and so forth. My fiance thinks it's not a good idea because we aren't a traditional couple so what does it matter? But I guess my hesititation is that you know how they come in twos? There aren't many couples that we know of or that we trust in order to put into our bridal party so it has me a little worried. thoughts? thanks so much for the help!
    What?  No, they don't come in twos.  And it's not their job to be involved in wedding planning.



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  • Nikita2013Nikita2013 member
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    I'm not saying its their job to be a part of the wedding planning i was saying that i would like them for them be a part of it. what i meant by them coming in twos is walking down in couples.
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  • Nikita2013Nikita2013 member
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    maybe i didn't make myself clear when i said couples, i didn't mean people in a relationship, i meant like a man and a woman walking down together. yeah my friend was rude to say that i thought it was pretty rude myself just wanted opinions on that lol. My fiance did say it was a good idea to have only bridesmaids and no groomsmen. I: guess I'm like a traditionalist in that way thinking that they had to be like bridesmaids and groomsmen, thanks so much for everyone's help!
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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Nikita2013 said:
    maybe i didn't make myself clear when i said couples, i didn't mean people in a relationship, i meant like a man and a woman walking down together. yeah my friend was rude to say that i thought it was pretty rude myself just wanted opinions on that lol. My fiance did say it was a good idea to have only bridesmaids and no groomsmen. I: guess I'm like a traditionalist in that way thinking that they had to be like bridesmaids and groomsmen, thanks so much for everyone's help!
    They can either walk solo or you can have one man escort multiple ladies or two ladies can walk down next to each other - there's tons of options.
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  • Nikita2013Nikita2013 member
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    oh yeah i never thought of that neither. i really like the idea of having my sister and my best friend walking down by themselves. my fiance doesn't want groomsmen.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    Ditto PPs.  Also, you can have men on your side as brides-men and your FI can have women on his side as grooms-women/grooms-maids.
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