invitation wording

Knottie73115734 · May 2014

Should I let guests know that a cash bar will be available during the reception on the invitation?

Jen4948 · May 2014

You shouldn't have a cash bar, so no.

CMGragain · May 2014

Bride and Groom
request the pleasure of your company
at their wedding
Date
time
Venue
City, State
Bring money because they are charging you for drinks.
Don't forget to bring a nice gift from their registry, too.

Grabows14 · May 2014

Don't have a cash bar, it's annoying and rude.

If you aren't going to have drinks that is perfectly fine.

theartistformerlyknownas · May 2014

Look at your reception like a giant dinner party, because that's technically what it is. Would you charge someone for a glass of wine if they came to your house for dinner? No. If you couldn't afford/didn't want to offer wine at your dinner party, you just wouldn't offer it. You'd serve soft drinks instead. The same goes for your wedding.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

Knottie73115734 said:

Should I let guests know that a cash bar will be available during the reception on the invitation?

Maggie0829 · May 2014

And another from one of my favorite movies French Kiss...

HisGirlFriday13 · May 2014

The fact that this topic is coming up again:

The fact that NO ONE reads the damn stickies:

The fact that people don't understand why cash bars are rude:

VulgarGirl · May 2014

I bet this makes the newsletter.

tammym1001 · May 2014

Knottie73115734 said:

Should I let guests know that a cash bar will be available during the reception on the invitation?

Yes you should. That way they can decline your invitation and go spend their money on drinks and food at a place they pick for themselves.

sophhabobopha · May 2014

Yes, so they can know not to come.

sarawifenow · May 2014

Knottie73115734 said:

Should I let guests know that a cash bar will be available during the reception on the invitation?

....is this real life?

VulgarGirl · May 2014

SaraBrideSoon said:

Knottie73115734 said:

Should I let guests know that a cash bar will be available during the reception on the invitation?

....is this real life?

sheslikeasunburn · May 2014

this person is a troll! stop giving it what it wants!!

doeydo · May 2014

But JIC, read this: http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/995381/cash-bars-everything-you-need-to-know-in-one-place/p1

AddieCake · May 2014

I'm very suspicious of all these new "Knottienumbers" with their suspicious first posts.

VulgarGirl · May 2014

AddieCake said:

I'm very suspicious of all these new "Knottienumbers" with their suspicious first posts.

TK automatically assigns you a name of "Knottierandomassnumbers" and you have to go in and change it.

It's what happened when I helped @bouncertony sign up. But when I signed up it made me put in a s/n first. So I'm guessing it's a new change they did.

Maggie0829 · May 2014

MagicInk said:

AddieCake said:

I'm very suspicious of all these new "Knottienumbers" with their suspicious first posts.

TK automatically assigns you a name of "Knottierandomassnumbers" and you have to go in and change it.

It's what happened when I helped @bouncertony sign up. But when I signed up it made me put in a s/n first. So I'm guessing it's a new change they did.

Another ridiculously dumb change made by TK. "Hey lets make things harder with more steps so people are confused as fuck!"

amcjbb · May 2014

My opinion is to NOT put the cash bar part on the invite. It's a wedding and most people know to bring money for the dollar dance and bar. At least every single person I have ever met at every single wedding I have been to knows to bring money. Leave it off the invitation and try to host some kegs and/or cases of wine for your guests. Then they have some free alcohol and they can buy there own drinks if they want to. All of the weddings that I have been to have had AT LEAST kegs of beer and/or cases of wine for the guest to drink for free if not more of an open bar concept. I never know the alcohol situation until I get to the reception and that is fine with most people, because they come prepared.

Is the cash bar only for the reception and you are hosting for the social hour?

Jen4948 · May 2014

amcjbb said:

My opinion is to NOT put the cash bar part on the invite. It's a wedding and most people know to bring money for the dollar dance and bar. At least every single person I have ever met at every single wedding I have been to knows to bring money. Leave it off the invitation and try to host some kegs and/or cases of wine for your guests. Then they have some free alcohol and they can buy there own drinks if they want to. All of the weddings that I have been to have had AT LEAST kegs of beer and/or cases of wine for the guest to drink for free if not more of an open bar concept. I never know the alcohol situation until I get to the reception and that is fine with most people, because they come prepared.
Is the cash bar only for the reception and you are hosting for the social hour?

Nope. Both cash bars and money dances are rude. Your reception is supposed to be your thank-you to your guests for attending, and any idea that you are entitled to make money off your guests or expect them to pay for their own thank-you is inappropriate. And regardless of what is done where you come from, most guests do NOT "know to come prepared" because it's not their place ot pay for their hospitality. It is YOURS.

amcjbb · May 2014

You are very rude in how you respond to people. I'm not sure if it's your personality or because you can hide behind a computer, but it's not okay either way.

There is no law that states it is illegal to have a cash bar or dollar dance. To you it is rude, to others it is not. It's not your wedding day so don't tear other brides down for what they want to do. I thought this forum would be women giving advice in a helpful, positive manner, but so many of you rip each other apart. This is already a stressful time in our lives to be planning a wedding and now you get to add women being bitches towards one another on top of it. That's crap! I try to express my answers in a nice way and it doesn't hurt me to do so. I don't need to tear down another bride, just because she is doing things differently then me. I hope she is so we all don't have identical weddings.

I have NEVER thought to myself that it is rude that I had to pay for a drink at a wedding or to do the dollar dance. In my view point, it is another way to help and support the couple that invited me to their special day. Chances are they invited me, because I have helped and supported them in the past by being a good friend or family member.

Jen4948 · May 2014

amcjbb said:

You are very rude in how you respond to people. I'm not sure if it's your personality or because you can hide behind a computer, but it's not okay either way.
No one was rude in their response to you, or anyone else. Sorry, but what is rude is to have a cash bar or money dance or expect people to "be prepared" or pay for anything at your wedding. PS: I don't care if you like me or not.

theartistformerlyknownas · May 2014

Bingo!

MobKaz · May 2014

amcjbb said:

You are very rude in how you respond to people. I'm not sure if it's your personality or because you can hide behind a computer, but it's not okay either way.
There is no law that states it is illegal to have a cash bar or dollar dance. To you it is rude, to others it is not. It's not your wedding day so don't tear other brides down for what they want to do. I thought this forum would be women giving advice in a helpful, positive manner, but so many of you rip each other apart. This is already a stressful time in our lives to be planning a wedding and now you get to add women being bitches towards one another on top of it. That's crap! I try to express my answers in a nice way and it doesn't hurt me to do so. I don't need to tear down another bride, just because she is doing things differently then me. I hope she is so we all don't have identical weddings.
I have NEVER thought to myself that it is rude that I had to pay for a drink at a wedding or to do the dollar dance. In my view point, it is another way to help and support the couple that invited me to their special day. Chances are they invited me, because I have helped and supported them in the past by being a good friend or family member.

Calling women bitches is hardly expressing your response in a nice way.

Did you invite guests based on how they supported you? Will guests that helped pay your mortgage or electric bill be allowed to sit at premium tables at your reception? If you didn't help them financially before, why would their wedding be different?

Jen4948 · May 2014

lolo883 said:

Bingo!

Blackout bingo!

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