We are still about 9 days out from our RSVP deadline, but I am working on preliminary table assignments. It's tricky because both of our parents are divorced and all but my mom are remarried. I often see advice to allow parents to host their own tables, but my mom ends up being the odd duck because other than her kids and grandkids, she will have no family or friends in attendance (her side of the family is overseas). She and my dad and stepmom are on pretty good terms and I considered seating them at the same table so they can all sit with my brother and his family, but would that seem weird?
I'm not sure yet if my grandmother will come because she has Alzheimer's and may be having a bad day, but if she comes I would definitely need to put her with my dad and other people she is familiar with so she doesn't get more confused, so that takes up the extra spaces with my brother. So then where do I put my mom? Maybe with my FIL's?
What "rules" did you follow when assigning seats or tables? Any tips, particularly for those with complicated parent situations like mine?