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Giving the Bride away

Hello everyone and happy planning!

I am recently engaged and our wedding is tentatively scheduled for March 14, 2015. My fiance has a huge family and a majority will be there but on my side, it is just me and my sister. My mother and grandfather passed away 10 years ago unexpectedly. Of course it has always been my dream to have someone walk me down the aisle and give me away. I was considering asking a woman who has been there for me during my mom's passing and after. How would you go about approaching that subject? Or should I just forget about it and have some memento of my mother with me?

Amber

Re: Giving the Bride away

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    I think it's okay to just ask her. Tell her how much she means to you and you would love if she walked you down the aisle and gave you away.
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    phiraphira member
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    You can be escorted down the aisle or given away by whomever you'd like to ask! It doesn't have to be your parent, or an opposite-gender person.

    Additionally, you can have someone walk you down the aisle while still carrying a memento of your mother. Not mutually exclusive.
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    You might consider having your sister escort you down the aisle and give you away."
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    Ask but don't pressure. Let her know you would like her to but if she rather wouldn't they you have someone else to instead. 
    Why not carry a memento either way? 
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    You can ask her.  Do it gently and diffidently.

    But you can carry a memento of your mother as well, such as a bouquet of her favorite flowers or a piece of jewelry she owned.
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    I talked with my sister about it and we decided to have mementos of them at the wedding. Either placing a flower where they would have sat or photographs. I apologize for the delay in responding back to you all. 
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    I talked with my sister about it and we decided to have mementos of them at the wedding. Either placing a flower where they would have sat or photographs. I apologize for the delay in responding back to you all. 

    I would avoid the bolded, because your wedding is supposed to be a happy occasion and this is likely to induce tears, grief, and loss.  A display of photographs of family members, living and deceased, would be more discreet and happier.
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    Great discussion :)
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