We are using a friend as officiant - she also has a young son that my FI and I very much adore. My FI is the oldest child/first to get married, I'm also the first to get married of my brother and I, so we don't have any little nieces or nephews. How young is too young to use my friend's son as a ring bearer? We will be getting married a few weeks before his second birthday (wedding October 4, birthday October 31) - he's walking great and talking a little, but I'm worried that's still too young to take direction very well. (I am, quite frankly, anticipating that he's going to start asking for one of the three of us mid-ceremony, but we'll jump that hoop if/when we come to it... even if he does decide he wants to climb off of whoever's lap and come see us, I don't think it'll be a big deal.)