My questions are essentially:
1). Do you have tips on sharing the spotlight with another bride-to-be who is your friend?
2). What about getting married before someone who got engaged before you, is there any etiquette element to that?
Background: So, last week the bf and I had "the talk" that comes before "the question". He is engagement ring shopping (he asked and I gave him my setting preferences, the rest is up to him). He thinks it will be about a month before he has the ring in hand. Of course the proposal itself will (hopefully) be a surprise, but that surprise, barring unforeseen circumstances, be two months or less away. We have told certain family members (our moms, etc.) about the imminent engagement but are not telling anyone else until it happens.
Here is the tricky-ish thing. A girl who has become a close friend of mine over the last couple of years got engaged in May. Her wait was a long one, at least in her eyes, they had dated for about four years and she was living on pins and needles hoping the guy would propose for most of the time I've known her. I was actually very relieved when they did get engaged because I suspected that my bf would propose by about the one year mark (it looks like it will be even a little before that) and every girl who got engaged before her was like a fresh wound, there have been a lot of lady wine nights to comfort her. It makes me a little sad, but I know she would not have been able to be happy for me if my bf had proposed before hers.
Even now, I suspect there may be some pangs for her when she sees me get engaged quickly (in my mind all relationships have their own timeline and you can't compare), and although she has joked about us maybe being engaged at the same time, I suspect she may not totally love having the spotlight drift from her so quickly. I also think we may get married before they do as well, they've decided on an 18+ month engagement with a big wedding while we are simpler folk who will likely have as small a wedding as we can manage (I would love to have about 50 people), probably in the spring of next year.
Ultimately, I feel like every bride really only gets one day and you are not ever guaranteed to be the only bride in your friend circle, but I do want to be sensitive and handle this well. It is really difficult keeping this from my close friends here and I can't wait to celebrate it.