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Need Help with Processional Order

perdonamiperdonami member
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edited August 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
We are having a small beach wedding consisting of about 50 people.

We are having a handfasting ceremony.

I have five bridal party attendants: My brother, a close family friend (like a brother), and three BM's: my cousin, middle school friend, and my FI's brother's girlfriend. 

FI has his two brothers and his high school friend as the BM. 

I also have a ring bearer and a flower girl.

Also, as some of you may  know from my previous posts, I do not want my father to be my escort down the aisle and my brother who is in the bridal party refuses to walk me down the aisle insisting that our father needs to do it. I just asked my other male bridal party attendant if he could do me the honor of escorting me down the sandy beach but have not heard back from him yet on his decision. If my guy friend declines (which I think he may do out of respect of my brother/father relationships) I plan on walking down the aisle with my cousin. 

Its not crucial but I'd like to have the MOG and FOG walk down the beach in tandem followed by my brother and my aunt (my mother is estranged from her family and will not be attending the wedding). 

Being that this is the first wedding I have ever been involved with or attended, I am not sure how to properly execute a processional order. Any ideas or tips would be appreciated. 

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    manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Oh man, sorry your brother is still being a butt. Don't forget you can always walk by yourself - it'd be a dramatic photo! I don't get these people insisting on your father. 

    I'd have groom's parents, your aunt and brother, groomsman with two ladies, groomsman with two ladies, BM and your MOH (or whichever person is standing closest to you), FG and RB, and then you.

    We did this (four guys, 6 girls) and it worked out just fine. 
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    perdonamiperdonami member
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    manateehugger I really don't walk down the aisle of sand alone.. It also makes me feel like I am being punished for not having my father do it. So, if my guy friend won't do it, my cousin will. 

    Besides, who's gonna stop us from falling over walking in that damn sand. lol
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    manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    perdonami said:
    manateehugger I really don't walk down the aisle of sand alone.. It also makes me feel like I am being punished for not having my father do it. So, if my guy friend won't do it, my cousin will. 

    Besides, who's gonna stop us from falling over walking in that damn sand. lol
    Fair enough! Good for you for standing firm in not wanting someone who can't fulfill the emotional role to walk you down. 
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    [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Can you walk down the aisle with your fiance?  That's what I want to do.
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    misshart00misshart00 member
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    Why do you keep calling it the aisle of sand? It sounds so ominous.
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    perdonamiperdonami member
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    misshart00 b/c I don't really have an aisle.. we will be walking up to two half circles of our guests seated into the center where the officiant is. 

    So to me, its like we are just traipsing across the beach or through the sand. Doesn't sound ominous to me except maybe the possibility of falling down. lol 


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    MandyMostMandyMost member
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    Are you set on having the groom and groomsmen walk down the aisle? Most weddings I've been to lately have them just standing up at the front and not processing in.

    I'd have the parents of the groom come in, then the "parents of the bride". This can be whoever you want it to be. If they are not couples then can come in alone, or escorted by anyone of their choosing. Your "bridesmaids" can then come in alone or in groups of 2-3. Then you and your escort. 
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    perdonamiperdonami member
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    I stayed up last night watching youtube vidoes of wedding processionals and saw one that had all the guys walk in, than the all the ladies, than the FG and RB, than finally the bride without an escort. Im thinking I will just do this or do as you suggested and have the guys already up there and than have the ladies walk down the beach alone. Has anyone only had one song for the processional or typically had two: one for the bridal party and than one for the bride?
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    NymeruNymeru member
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    For my wedding, the pastor led the guys down to the arch, where they waited for the girls.  My BMs walked down the aisle, one at a time, and then I came down the aisle with my dad (we didn't have any kids in the wedding).  I used Pachelbel's Canon in D, played by a guitarist, for the entire thing.  It's a long a song and was more than enough for our processional.  Unless you have a really long processional, I've never seen the point of having more than one song.
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    huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    It looks like you have 3 men on your FI side, and 2 men and 3 women on your side. Is that correct?

    If so, I would have your FI parents then your aunt and brother, then your attendants. You can also have your FI and his attendants walk down the aisle as well. 

    We had a Jewish processional so the groomsman walked in first, then my husband with his parents, then the bridesmaids, then me and my parents. 

    Now coming back up the aisle, I would have your brother and your close male friend either walk single file or side by side up the aisle (they don't have to link arms or anything). 
    Then I would have the 3 groomsmen pair up with each of the 3 bridesmaids. 

    Alternatively, you could have your brother escort your aunt back up the aisle (after the bride and groom and bridal party), so then you have your male friend and one of the groomsmen escort one of the bridesmaids. The other 2 bridesmaids are paired up with the other 2 groomsmen. 
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