I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to plan a bridal shower, as I live a few states away from the bride. My original plan was to talk to the bridesmaids that live there/the bride's mom/future mother-in-law about planning a bridal shower. The bride brought it up to me and said that her family would arrange my travel because she wanted to make sure I was there. I'm planning the bachelorette right now and am going to her state for the wedding about a week before. She is very understanding and I very graciously thanked her, but now I'm struggling with how to plan the party.
She and her mom decided on the date, which I would have had them do anyways. Most everything that I've read says it's not right for the mother of the bride to help plan the shower, but since she's arranging my travel and picked the date I don't know if I should ask for her help, or if she expects that she's helping? I don't want to come off wrong by asking for help (I know she's busy helping with wedding planning), and don't want her to feel like she's left out if I don't ask. What should I do?
When I go there for the shower it will only be over a weekend, so I was thinking of splitting up shower duties with hosts there, if they're willing to help. I can do some things from a different state, but feel that I won't be able to do decorations, food, etc. I would definitely pitch in and help with the cost! I could do invitations from here and help reserving a location, choosing games and prizes, etc.
Need some advice/thoughts. Thank you! 