HoneyFund and/or any like website

Re: HoneyFund and/or any like website

• kat1114 member

  

  July 2014

  Don't do it. Just don't make a registry of any kind, and people will figure out you want cash. Plus, you won't have to pay the fees to some middle man.

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• zizibet member

  

  July 2014

  Asking for money is gross. Kat1114 is right on the mark.
  

  

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• zizibet member

  

  July 2014

  Also, Honeyfund takes a fee off the top and just cuts you a check for the remainder, so you don't even get all of it.
  

  

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• rms924 member

  

  July 2014

  @kat1114- thanks for that suggestion. I will def give it some thought! :-)

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• princessleia22 member

  

  July 2014

  I agree with others to avoid the honeyfunds.

  I had seriously looked into them, for the same reasons as you.  I decided that I really didn't like that they took a cut of the money, which as a guest I wouldn't be happy about. They also don't always make it clear that they get a cut of it, so the guest may wrongly think you are benefitting from the whole gift, when you aren't. I'd rather just give someone a check than donate to a fund that takes a portion of the money, so they receive and can benefit from the entire gift. 

  And you do kind of deceive guests by thinking they are donating toward a particular event or activity, when they really aren't. You "register" for dinner on the beach or snorkeling or whatever other activities you "plan" for your honeymoon, but that doesn't mean that you will actually do any of those things they think they are buying for you... or that you are even going on the honeymoon mentioned.  The honeyfund just sends you a check to use however you want.  I would be less than thrilled if I thought I bought someone a romantic couples spa treatment, then found out they were just given a check that they used to buy a tv or something or spent it at the casino. I think that if you do register with a honeyfund, you should make sure to actually do all the activities that people think they are purchasing for you. If someone contributes for you to swim with dolphins, make sure you actually swim with dolphins.  And even better, send them a photo of you participating in whatever activity they "purchased" for you. And I have seen where people did honeyfund, received a lot of money, but it wasn't enough for their dream honeymoon, so they just took the cash and blew it on stupid stuff.  I think most people don't realize that they aren't actually purchasing that particular gift or activity, which I think is very deceiving and can leave a lot of room for abuse and harsh feelings. It's basically lying to them and requesting money while telling them that they are actually giving you dinner/spa treatment/activities.

  But, I think it can be okay as long as you are open and let guests know how honeyfunds really work.  They should know that the site takes a portion of the gifted money and that you will receive a check for the gifted value, not the actual item/activity listed on the registry.  And I think you should make sure to actually do any activities for which you receive money, so people are actually buying you the activity they think they are buying you.

  The better alternative is to just not register for anything. People will get the hint if you don't have a registry and will usually choose to give money. Although, some people will always prefer to give tangible gifts rather than cash.  I ended up doing a very small registry to help direct the people that did want to give tangible gifts (we invited 80 people and I think our registry had about 15 items, most under $50 value), rather than leaving them on their own and getting random unwanted gifts we don't need. Most people took the hint, realized there was very little we needed on the registry, and chose to give us money or gift cards instead.

   

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• rms924 member

  

  September 2014

  @nicoann haven't registered yet so I think I am starting to come around to your way of thinking Thank you so much! I hope we get some money- that would help defray the cost of our ballooning wedding budget. We are mostly spending our money on making sure our guests have a great  time and I hope some of it comes back. If not, well it is what it is

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