Looking for alternative bachelorette party ideas! All but one bridesmaid lived through (and with) me through my hard partying college years, but I've changed so much and don't enjoy going out much anymore. Two of the five are spending a lot of money to come from across the country, another just had a baby and is dying to have a crazy night, and the other two are in the same place in life as me. I don't want to disappoint 1/2 of the bridal party by choosing a spa day and the other 1/2 by choosing to go out. My fiance has chilled out like me and has planned a fishing trip for his bachelor party. I know the wedding is all about me (and him), but I am not the type of person who willingly hurts feelings for my benefit. I cannot handle a night of shots, scavenger hunts, and getting hit on - I already had a 21st birthday party! Honestly, I'd rather go on a fishing trip but none of my girls would enjoy it. The 2 who are more calm, my older sister and my fiance's older sister, would go out for sure, but I simply do not want that! Is it rude to have a get together with games and drinks and then skip going downtown? There has to be another way to do this without a hangover or pouting maids! Fyi, the wedding is in March and we live in a southern coastal city. Any ideas would be so much appreciated!