My fiance and I just got engaged 3 weeks ago, and we've been trying to being planning the wedding, but we're faced with a slight dilemma. My fiance is Scottish, I'm American (from California) and we live near London. We would love to have a wedding with both families there in full, but that seems unlikely. We mulled over the idea of having a tiny wedding somewhere abroad with just immediate families, and then more relaxed parties in each location afterwards to celebrate (my fiance wants a ceilidh for sure!) but both sets of parents felt we should just have it in the US or Scotland and not worry about who can't come. Our immediate families would for sure make the trip, but we aren't sure how many if any of the extended families would be able to make the trip across the Atlantic. My parents are very generously footing the bill, which makes an American wedding seem more practical (certainly financially) but my mom made the point that since we live in the UK, she thinks it probably makes most sense to have it there. We have no idea what to do to - we want to include everyone (and we're not particularly fussed about having an expensive reception, so we'd definitely take more guests over a particular venue or fancy menu). My fiance thought the best option would be to still have a small, immediate family wedding only in one of the locations followed by a reception for everyone, and then have a small party after the wedding in the other location, but since many of my family don't live in California, that would only be an option in Scotland. Has anyone been in this situation (or similar)? What did you do? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.