Met with the FMIL today to just talk about the guest list. My parents are paying for the whole thing and we can't invite more than 200 guests (crossing our fingers we get no more than 175 to come). Anyway, she shows up with a list of 90 people she has already called, invited over the phone and got their home addresses. We only had room for 70 (max) for her to invite and she started going on about how she hasn't added her church friends to the list yet. Has the nerve to tell me these people are non-negotiable and this is her one shot at her son's wedding (she does have a 19 year old daughter who's a total princess) AND they gave us $1500 for the DJ and cake so they could invite whomever they wanted. Thanks lady, my parents are paying $15K and they only get 4 friends on the list because budget's already so tight. Called her, gave it to her straight. Apologized over and over again for any miscommunication. Told her we can pay for the 70 people we expected but anyone over she has to pay for after RSVP's come in. She seemed to calm down and backtrack when I told her not only is it $40/plate (which she already knew), but every person is another invitation, menu card, program, centerpiece, escort card, favor, exc. Finally agreed to pay for anyone extra and then rattled on about the backyard rehearsal dinner she is throwing. Did I mention my wedding is 10 months away!. Mother-in-law winning! Anyone else have monster in laws?