I have always been an introvert and only had a few, close friends. The person I thought was my best friend, 'Leslie', always had an issue with being selfish but had improved over the years. She's actually the one who introduced me to my now fiancee, Clayton, who was also her friend. I had been very busy spending time with Clayton and just started going back to school full time. I hadn't been able to really talk to her or hang out with her for awhile (a month or so), but had planned on doing so soon. Before I could do that, Clayton proposed. I posted the happy news on facebook, and texted her about it later that night.
All i got was a 'congrats' an hour later. Nothing else. She never contacted me at all to tell me congratulations, I had to text her and that was all she had to say. As someone who I thought was my best friend for the past 10 years, I thought this hurtful. I could have even understood if she had at least told me she that she was upset or concerned about the engagement, but there was complete silence on her part. Clayton asked her about it a couple days later and she actually started to say how it was my fault for ignoring her (even though she never tried to contact me before this happened), then proceeded to talk shit about me to my fiancee. I ended our friendship that night. I tried to contact my other friend, who had also been mysteriously silent on this matter only to find that she apparently talked to leslie and blocked me off of facebook! Neither of them apologized for their behavior. If it had just been them having hurt feelings, I could have understood but to act so hateful was completely uncalled for.
I was shocked. I considered these people to be my close friends, and thought they would celebrate with me. Or at least be happy for me, seeing as my fiancee was friends with them in college as well. I never imagined this would happen. The result is...I have no bridesmaids.The good thing is my wedding isn't until January 2016 so I have time to make new friends. However, I'm not sure if it would be appropriate or wise to ask a newer friend to be a bridesmaid. Should I just stick with my fiancee's family? Or ask a newer friend to be a bridesmaid? How long into a friendship would it be appropriate to ask that question? Any input would be appreciated!