I'm so over this whole wedding thing that I'm seriously thinking about doing away with the day we have (barely) planned and going to the courthouse.
My mom and I can't seem to agree on anything. From the time of year we picked, to the menu, to the length of the bridesmaids' dresses, she has fought me tooth and nail. We've been engaged for about a year and a month and our wedding is in May. The only thing we have committed to is a photo booth. The church, reception venue, DJ, and dress have all been decided on but we haven't gone through with them. I am always stressed out about finances, and despite the help we're receiving from family, I can't help but feel that the money could be spent more wisely. We're both students and my mom has told me that I shouldn't be taking any classes the semester before the wedding. Every conversation we have is about how unprepared I am, how I need to lose weight so I'm not (as) fat for the wedding, and how her opinions are better than mine. So here's how I broke it down:
Pros to saying "screw the wedding":
+ We save (most of) the money that would have been spent on the wedding day
+ We get married whenever we want, which means we could get married on 12/13/14! (Hey, I like that day! And winter honeymoon/anniversary trips!)
+ ^ This means that we also get tax bennies for 2014 and...
+ ...we would save an extra ~$2500 on tuition (I work for a university and spouses get half off tuition) and additional $ on health insurance
+ I can take classes spring semester and graduate a year earlier than I otherwise would if we were to go through with the wedding
+ Less pressure on me to lose weight for the wedding. I'm so worried that I'm still going to be a "fat bride" and that will preoccupy my thoughts during the wedding day (which means I'd be worrying more about being a disappointment to my family and I wouldn't actually enjoy my wedding day)
+ Less arguments with mom (always a big plus!)
Cons:
- Won't get to celebrate with all of my family and friends (many are out of town and I wouldn't send an invite for people to come visit a courthouse lol)
- Won't get to get married in the Orthodox church, which is gorgeous and has such a beautiful and meaningful ceremony
- I'm afraid we'll regret not having a big celebration
- I'm the only child and my fiancé is the oldest child, so I think the parents will be disappointed if we didn't have a nice wedding
We weren't looking for a super extravagant wedding, but it's going to end up being around $15,000 before the honeymoon. I wasn't one of those girls who dreamt about her wedding as a child, but I made up for it on Pinterest over the past few years. That being said, I don't know how attached I am to this whole wedding thing anyway.
Thoughts, anyone? Sorry for anyone who saw this and thought "TL;DR" - but for those of you who read this, thank you. Any input would be appreciated.
9.13.15
I say "that's what she said" more than any normal person should.