My husband and I are having vow renewals on our one year anniversary. I know most people wait for a major anniversary to renew their vows but I was incredibly sick for our wedding. I was in the hospital for days leading up to the wedding and missed the rehearsal and groom's dinner. I was released on the day of our wedding with the plan of checking back in as soon as possible after the wedding, which is what happened. I made it to the wedding but most definitely still should have been in the hospital. Unfortunately, I don't remember my vows, all I remember is pain and the haze and confusion of the pain killers. I made it through the grand entrance of our wedding but missed the rest of the reception. Since I don't remember our vows, I want to do a vow renewal. My husband wants to have a HUGE party (500+) and invite everyone he couldn't invite to our wedding due to size restrictions at our venue (we moved back to his hometown so he has a ton of people he wants to invite; all of my guests have to travel). I think that we should limit our vow renewal guest list to people we invited to our actual wedding because it's so close to our wedding. I would actually like to limit it more than our original guest list because I'm picturing having it in our backyard. He's picturing a potluck in the park (which truth be told, the potluck part is off-putting to me). We can't afford a second wedding but we can afford either of the scenarios we envisioned. We're really butting heads on the general concept and the guest list so any advice or suggestions for compromises would help.