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andyleemrrs
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Friend is furious I didn't put her in wedding...


I got engaged in April. We are having the wedding March 2015. I have been friends with this girl since Freshman year of high school. However, I have been a little strained with the friendship. Every boyfriend I have EVER had, she hits on him. If the guy turned her down, she would try to tell me he is a horrible person and I should dump him. The last straw was last year. I was seeing this guy and she hit on him right in front of me. He clearly turned her down and so the next day she CALLED MY MOTHER and told my mom he was using me and he made fun of me to my face. So my mom calls asking what that is about. First off, it never happened. Needless to say, I have NOT introduced her to my fiancé. I decided to forgive her for all the non sense in the past, but obviously I did not put her in the wedding. When we got engaged, I tried calling her multiple times to tell her the news and she ignored my calls and never called back. So I posted it on Facebook. She sent me a message the NEXT day saying its wrong that I didn't tell her first and that I didn't make her my MOH. She made me feel horrible. But then about a month later she told me that she wouldn't be able to come to the wedding because she lost her job and couldn't afford anything (we are getting married 2,000 miles away). Should I still invite her?
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Re: Friend is furious I didn't put her in wedding...
Im not sure, I guess I just feel obligated since we have been friends for so long lol. But I hear your point.
In fact, I wouldn't even stay friends with her after that.
And regarding inviting her to your wedding -
If she as already told you she can't attend the wedding, then you have hit the invite lottery. If she gets mad at the non-invitation, you can say you thought she was telling you not to invite her.
She is bound to hit on some inappropriate man at the wedding, so why chance it?
Spare yourself the grief.
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No offense, but that rule is bullshit. I have been to plenty of weddings for friends where I didn't meet the bride / groom until the day of the wedding. Granted, these are all friends who live out of state, but it is no big deal. When DH and I got engaged, we had been dating for 3 months, and at the time I was traveling out-of-state for work 4 days a week. There were quite a few people who didn't meet me (or him) until the wedding day. NBD.