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Aisle walking with SOs

What would you think about having SO's of my bridesmaids and groomsmen escort them down the aisle?  As in, groomsmen walk down the aisle with their wives/girlfriends, deposit their ladies in their seats, then go stand at the altar.  Bridesmaids walk down the aisle with their SOs, the gentlemen deposit their ladies at the altar, then return to their seats?  Just a random thought I had last night and wondered if I was crazy.

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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston
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    Yeah, I'm with Sara on this.  It sounds nice, but it also might put their SOs in an awkward position. 
    adk19 said:
    What would you think about having SO's of my bridesmaids and groomsmen escort them down the aisle?  As in, groomsmen walk down the aisle with their wives/girlfriends, deposit their ladies in their seats, then go stand at the altar.  Bridesmaids walk down the aisle with their SOs, the gentlemen deposit their ladies at the altar, then return to their seats?  Just a random thought I had last night and wondered if I was crazy.




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  • Honestly, I think it's less weird than having BMs escorted down the aisle by GMs that are not their SOs, while their SOs are in the audience. That always seems so weird to me. Our GMs are also our ushers, and they will just be around mingling with guests until the ceremony start time. And then they are just walking up to the front and taking their places on their own before the procession starts. BMs are walking unescorted.
  • Umm if I'm not in your wedding, I really don't want to process down your aisle. Awkward.

    Just seat us together at dinner.
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  • Maybe I'm biased against the BMs being escorted by GMs because once I was paired up with some random dude who was so high he could barely walk and I was literally holding him up the entire way down the aisle. Also I couldn't breathe. Because he smelled very.... potent. Every since then I am like, "Please do not force me to walk with one of your fiance's awful buddies, please just let me walk alone."
  • Thanks!  Like I said, just a random thought I had last night.  Is processing OUT with your SO just as bad?  Or since the show's over, maybe ok?  
  • sarawifenowsarawifenow Denver, baby!
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    I still wouldn't do that. Because then the SOs would have to make a point of getting up from their seats and walking up to the front to meet their SO.
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  • Yeah, I've been a groomsmen tagalong multiple times. I seriously feel no desire to have any role other than regular guest when I'm not in the wedding.
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    Yeah, I've been a groomsmen tagalong multiple times. I seriously feel no desire to have any role other than regular guest when I'm not in the wedding.
    Ditto. 



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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    I know you don't want to split up established couples, but this is a time when I think it needs to be done and accepted by all. If both members of a couple aren't in the wedding party, the ones who are not should stay seated. If it's really a problem to have someone in an established couple walk with someone who is not their SO, just don't make them walk in pairs. Let that person walk on their own, or just let everyone walk on their own without pairing them off.
  • When a gentleman offers a lady his arm, it is simply a polite gesture on his part, and will help steady her as she walks.  It is not an indications that they are a couple in any way!  This is ridiculous!
    I think the groomsmen and the bridesmaids can walk down the aisle together without becoming embarrassingly intimate.
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    CMGragain said:
    When a gentleman offers a lady his arm, it is simply a polite gesture on his part, and will help steady her as she walks.  It is not an indications that they are a couple in any way!  This is ridiculous!
    I think the groomsmen and the bridesmaids can walk down the aisle together without becoming embarrassingly intimate.
    One would think so, but people can be awfully silly about it apparently.  (I'm on your side in this, just stating that apparently others don't agree with us.)
  • I think that this would only work if everyone has a serious SO.  You certainly don't want someone to have their fling walk them up the aisle just for them to break up next week.  My MOH is married to a bridesman that was on the other side, so it would have been hard to make that work since they were not standing across from each other.  He was at the end of the line, she was right beside me.
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  • I don't get why people are weird about bms and gms walking down together. It's not weird. He's just escorting her. I've always appreciate being escorted when I'm in a wedding rather than walking down alone. It seems less awkward to me and makes me not nervous. 
  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom South Jersey
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    I think adding in the SOs would add unnecessary time to your processional and recessional. Perhaps if your WP will be introduced at the reception, they can be escorted in with their SO there.
  • I don't get why people are weird about bms and gms walking down together. It's not weird. He's just escorting her. I've always appreciate being escorted when I'm in a wedding rather than walking down alone. It seems less awkward to me and makes me not nervous. 
    I don't know who is weird about BMs and GMs walking down the aisle together, but it's not me.  I was just thinking about how it might be nice for my sister to be escorted down the aisle by her husband who then goes and sits at his place in the front row.  I don't think she or I or the groomsman or her husband will care if she's escorted by a groomsman, I was just wondering how weird it would be to change it up a little.
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    adk19 said:
    I don't get why people are weird about bms and gms walking down together. It's not weird. He's just escorting her. I've always appreciate being escorted when I'm in a wedding rather than walking down alone. It seems less awkward to me and makes me not nervous. 
    I don't know who is weird about BMs and GMs walking down the aisle together, but it's not me.  I was just thinking about how it might be nice for my sister to be escorted down the aisle by her husband who then goes and sits at his place in the front row.  I don't think she or I or the groomsman or her husband will care if she's escorted by a groomsman, I was just wondering how weird it would be to change it up a little.

    If the sister / husband thing is a one-off, I wouldn't care. But, if you're doing this for 3 of your 4 BMs and the 4th is single, I'd say no. There is no need to draw attention to that. This is also assuming that your BIL would want to do this.



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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    I don't get why people are weird about bms and gms walking down together. It's not weird. He's just escorting her. I've always appreciate being escorted when I'm in a wedding rather than walking down alone. It seems less awkward to me and makes me not nervous. 
    Why is it necessary for the GM to "escort" the BMs at all? 

    You might prefer not to walk alone, but if the attendants are all in couples with people who are not in the wedding party, does it even make sense to have the GM "escort" the BMs?
  • adk19 said:
    I don't get why people are weird about bms and gms walking down together. It's not weird. He's just escorting her. I've always appreciate being escorted when I'm in a wedding rather than walking down alone. It seems less awkward to me and makes me not nervous. 
    I don't know who is weird about BMs and GMs walking down the aisle together, but it's not me.  I was just thinking about how it might be nice for my sister to be escorted down the aisle by her husband who then goes and sits at his place in the front row.  I don't think she or I or the groomsman or her husband will care if she's escorted by a groomsman, I was just wondering how weird it would be to change it up a little.

    If the sister / husband thing is a one-off, I wouldn't care. But, if you're doing this for 3 of your 4 BMs and the 4th is single, I'd say no. There is no need to draw attention to that. This is also assuming that your BIL would want to do this.
    What if the single bridesmaid wants attention drawn to the fact that she's single so she can snag a man at my wedding?
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    adk19 said:
    adk19 said:
    I don't get why people are weird about bms and gms walking down together. It's not weird. He's just escorting her. I've always appreciate being escorted when I'm in a wedding rather than walking down alone. It seems less awkward to me and makes me not nervous. 
    I don't know who is weird about BMs and GMs walking down the aisle together, but it's not me.  I was just thinking about how it might be nice for my sister to be escorted down the aisle by her husband who then goes and sits at his place in the front row.  I don't think she or I or the groomsman or her husband will care if she's escorted by a groomsman, I was just wondering how weird it would be to change it up a little.

    If the sister / husband thing is a one-off, I wouldn't care. But, if you're doing this for 3 of your 4 BMs and the 4th is single, I'd say no. There is no need to draw attention to that. This is also assuming that your BIL would want to do this.
    What if the single bridesmaid wants attention drawn to the fact that she's single so she can snag a man at my wedding?
    LOL, that's a funny way to look at it. 



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  • Are we talking about the processional, or the recessional? 

    OP -- I like where you're heads at, it seems like you are really trying to accomodate folks. But I think in this case it's not necessary. 

    Maybe I'm going to weird weddings but I have only seen the BM's escorted during the recessional by the GM's I think trying to pair up couples would be challenging after the ceremony ends and the So's are in the "audience". 
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  • I was originally talking about the processional.  I haven't yet officially selected my wedding party, but my thoughts are my niece who is 9 and could walk up with her dad, or alone, her choice.  My sister could walk with her husband.  And my cousin could walk with her boyfriend or alone if she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore by then; or, hell, she could be escorted by her dad or brother if she chose.  Every man my FH might ask to be a groomsman is married except one who has a long-term girlfriend, so they wouldn't be alone either.

    But then the plan fell apart when I thought about the kids.  Would the kids process with their parents?  It's not like they can sit alone in the chairs waiting while their parents process.  So, now we're back to normality where everyone processes alone, or paired up.  Depending on how many guys my FH decides to go with will determine which we choose.

    I wasn't really attached to this idea when I posted.  It was just a random thought I had and decided to ask for thoughts on.
  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston
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    I think it's a nice idea and you obviously have good intentions.  I think there are just too many factors there and it may be more trouble than it's worth. 



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  • I'll fess up. I'm a person that thinks pairing up BMs and GMs is weird. It just feels so.... prom-y to me. And forced. And awkward when my own FI is in the audience. 

    I also don't understand the "the GMs are just offering the BMs an arm so they don't fall in their heels." I mean, if you can't walk from one end of the venue to the other in your heels without falling... you shouldn't be wearing those heels. I don't need some random guy to hold me up. If I'm going to link arms with someone, it's because I'm close to that person, not because I'm incapable of walking in heels. Thus, I'd much, much prefer to walk myself down the aisle. My BMs are walking themselves down the aisle. And I trust them to all wear shoes they can walk in.

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  • Haha, I'm also a person that abhors hugging strangers or people I just met, so maybe this is just me.
  • as someone who may have fallen publicly at an event (hypothetical, of course), as a bridesmaid I've always preferred to walk down the aisle with a GM, less likely to stumble, or at least I'll take him down with me :)   
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