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siblings in processional

lreiclreic member
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Is anyone having other people/couples in the processional besides bridal party, parents and grandparents? 

My fiance and I are throwing around the idea of having my siblings (who are all either married or in VERY serious relationships) (4 couples total) be included in the processional. I would have them begin, then have the grandmothers, mothers and bridal party. 

He has a small family, and only his parents and one aunt have married. So we view my siblings relationships as something to strive for, as inspiration if you will. That is why we want them to recognized in a different way. 

We are doing many things in an 'nontraditional' manner, this would not be a big deal. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If your siblings and/or their SOs aren't in the wedding party, I would not have them process down the aisle and back.  Too many extra people walking up and down the aisle takes too long.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Our processional was limited to just the WP. DH walked with both is parents. Then WP. Then I walked with both my parents. It was clean and easy. There aren't any hard and fast rules but I probably would not include siblings. It just gets too long at some point. Grand parents? Sure. Siblings? Meh.
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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    lreic said:
    Is anyone having other people/couples in the processional besides bridal party, parents and grandparents? 

    My fiance and I are throwing around the idea of having my siblings (who are all either married or in VERY serious relationships) (4 couples total) be included in the processional. I would have them begin, then have the grandmothers, mothers and bridal party. 

    He has a small family, and only his parents and one aunt have married. So we view my siblings relationships as something to strive for, as inspiration if you will. That is why we want them to recognized in a different way. 

    We are doing many things in an 'nontraditional' manner, this would not be a big deal. 

    My brother wasn't in the wedding party, and he just stayed in his seat. There is nothing wrong with your idea etiquette-wise, but I personally wouldn't do it.




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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    The only people who should be in the processional are the wedding party and the bride with her escort.  Everyone else is seated quietly before the processional begins.  Usually the MOB is seated last, just before it begins.
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  • jynxiiejynxiie member
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    I am an only child and my FI has one sister. We are adding her to the processional.
    It will only add like 30 seconds.
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  • atlastmrsgatlastmrsg member
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    I think non-traditional processionals are fine.  Mine was slightly non-traditional since I walked with both my parents.

    The caveat here--the four times total anyone went up the aisle, it was wedding party.  

    Having all kinds of family seated as processional at a small wedding also is bound to hurt someone's feelings, if there's a small family involved--aka, the whining around "sister got picked, but as <cousin or whatever> I see them more than her, but I didn't get picked?"  
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  • graciegragraciegra member
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    If you do want them to walk but don't want to add too much time, maybe they can all walk as almost a group? Maybe youngest to oldest or oldest to youngest sibling? Have the first couple start then about 4-6 feet later, the next couple, etc and then all eight can sit in one row together up at the front. I think it's a nice way to honor them but agree you don't want to add too much time because your groom will be up the front waiting for you! 
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  • oxfordcomma14oxfordcomma14 member
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    We had the sisters seated with the grandparents and my mother. We only had one living mother and one living grandmother, so it was 4 couples total being processed in before the wedding party started, so it wasn't very long. We also had the next person start down the aisle when the first person hit just past halfway, as pp suggested (including WP attendants). It worked out great and the whole thing was well under 5 minutes including me getting down the aisle.
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  • danamwdanamw member
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    " So we view my siblings relationships as something to strive for, as inspiration if you will. "

    Please don't do it with this above as the idea. It is presumptuous of you to parade your siblings as an example of anything to your guests.

    Everyone is different in their ideas of what is a relationship to strive for.



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