We are planning on not inviting children to our wedding with
the exception of our own children, who will be the flower girl and ring bearer.
However I would really like to invite the children of my closest cousin who
live across the country. I have a really small family (just my parents, an aunt,
uncle, and 3 cousins) and never see them because of the distance. My cousin has
4 young children (aged 2-9) and I’d love to see them all at my wedding. Is it an
etiquette no no for me to include her children but no one else’s? She has
expressed to me when we first got engaged that she can’t wait to visit us so I’m
pretty sure she’s planning on coming. I’m not sure if she would bring her
husband and all 4 kids though as in the past when our grandparents have died
she only came herself with her youngest child. If she only brings her youngest,
who is 1 month younger than my daughter, should I include her daughter to be
another flower girl or incorporate her in the wedding party somehow? My main
worry is that other guests will be upset that she was allowed to bring children
and they were not. Also, should I tell her that I’m not inviting kids except
for hers? I really want them to come but not feel awkward. Thanks for the advice!