Hello! I have a quick question about registries.
First of all, just to be clear from the start: my FI and I don't EXPECT gifts from any guests. We are grateful they are taking the time to share in our special day with us. That is a given and this post isn't about how to get money vs. gifts or anything of that sort. It stems from the fact that FMIL has asked about our registry plan and I know that we will receive more questions regarding gifts down the road, so I wanted to check in here and see what people have done in this circumstance in order to be prepared and not break any etiquette rules.
My FI and I have been living together for a few years. We have already outfitted our condo to our liking and won't be moving into our first home for another couple of years. While there are some upgrades we could use, we view it as somewhat wasteful to register for things we already have that work just fine (upgrading the vacuum cleaner to a newer model, new cutlery, etc.) We are also short on storage space for things that would be given to us for our future home. Therefore, we were thinking about not having a registry for our wedding.
Is this bad etiquette to not provide the option of a registry? Does this send a message to guests that you're asking for money? This is not our intention. We wouldn't ever dream of doing a Honeyfund or asking for cash.
Also, what do you do regarding a bridal shower since it's more focused on gifts that the bride gets to open (and I have read that in that case it would be rude not to have that option for guests)? But, again, I would find it kind of rude to include wedding-registry items for a bridal shower if you're not having a wedding registry. What do people usually put on there? All the bridal showers I've been to either were or have looked exactly like the couple's wedding registry.
Thank you in advance for your advice.