So I have this "friend" that I met through DH (she and her husband were the second of DH's friends I was introduced to). "Sarah" and I clicked instantly and became BFFs for awhile. We had a lot in common, both a bit snarky and the four of us hung out frequently for about a year and a half. I even considered asking her to be a bridesmaid until we decided to keep it to a MOH/BM only.
After DH proposed she was constantly asking about the wedding plans and then promptly criticizing everything (don't get your dress there, go here; don't serve that, it isn't fancy enough, etc.), so I tried to avoid wedding talk with her without being rude and ignoring her. During the 7 month engagement period the friendship cooled down and DH and I speculated that neither of us would be surprised if they no-showed to the wedding (surprise, they both attended!). Since the wedding in January we have seen them ONCE.
We see many Facebook posts of them hanging out with mutual friends (we introduced them to each other), they never respond to facebook posts and have generally checked out of our lives. (In her defense I don't know that we have extended more than 1-2 invitations during this time ourselves.)
We moved in May and had a kitchen remodel this summer so we haven't been in a place to host a lot of events at our house because of the work/mess. We sent out the evites to our Open House in a few weeks and she just sent in her RSVP as "yes". I was floored, so I texted DH that they were planning on coming. He told me that she had contacted him for help at her new job with some stuff that is in DH's wheelhouse. I was so bummed. It feels like she is only coming to the open house to "suck up" to DH so he helps her out with whatever she needs.
I know there isn't anything I can do. I'm not even sure that I need/want advice, I just wanted to vent about how aggravated I am with her and how it hurts my (and DH's) feelings when I see pictures of our friends out having fun without us. It just sucks. A very small part of me would like to know what we did to offend her, but it isn't worth the drama that may ensue.
And an interesting footnote... As I was doing the Facebook invites for the Open House I discovered I'm no longer "friends" with her husband (but DH is). No big loss since he is a very unhappy/cranky person, but it adds another layer of WTF to the whole situation.
Thanks for listening.
ETA: TK ate my paragraphs...