I have this friend Cassie. We've know each other for close to 20 years. We were best friends until she had her first kid. She asked me to be his godmother and then took it back. Before that, we were as close friends as you can be. I threw her a baby shower, was there when she delivered him, was there when she brought him home. The father of the first kid didn't approve of me, so she unasked me as godmother.
I didn't talk to her for quite a few years after that. We ran into each other at a mutual friend's wedding about a year and a half ago and became friendly again. Very soon after that, she invited me to her son's 2nd birthday party. I thought it was weird that she invited me to a party so soon, but I attended anyway. I brought presents for all 3 of her kids - the older kid (now 12), the 2 year old, and her newborn. She barely spoke to me while I was there. She gave me a brief hello. She had never met my then FI before. She basically said to him, "Oh, hi." and then turned around and walked away. I never received any kind of thank you for any of the gifts I gave - not in person, or a card.
Not long after that, I received an invite for the newborn's (Mary) christening. After the way she had treated me at the birthday party, I decided I was not going to go, and I let her know.
Right before my wedding, I received an invite to Mary's 1st birthday party. I called to let Cassie know that the party was the day after we returned from our HM and that we probably wouldn't be able to make it. She pretty much blew me off.
And Friday, I just received an invite to her son's 3rd birthday party.
Ok. Enough with the invites! I'm not going to drive an hour to your house to give gifts to your kids to be treated like shit and not even thanked! Stop inviting me! I thought she'd get the hint, but obviously not.
And just to further cement the fact that I know she's gift grubby - she called me the day after her wedding to complain to me that a mutual friend of ours didn't give her a gift! She was fuming, and said she was never going to talk to said mutual friend again.